There’s going to be part of you that will always be fearful. That’s natural. Fear itself is natural and normal. Even professional entertainers and speakers have fear when they get in front of an audience (we usually call it being nervous but it’s still a type of fear.). So, to think we will get rid of our fears completely isn’t realistic. But we can overcome them.

There are a lot of ways to learn to deal with your fear but first, you have to identify it. It sounds simple enough. But it’s not just saying “I’m afraid of public speaking” that will help you to learn to control that fear. You need to identify and acknowledge the root cause. Reflect on your thoughts and emotions to pinpoint the specific fears holding you back. Whether it’s fear of failure, rejection, or uncertainty, recognizing these fears is crucial for addressing them effectively. Usually, it’s not a fear of public speaking as much as the fear of failing, being embarrassed, or even ridiculed. Say for example your fear is one of rejection but you see it as a fear of public speaking because you worry that those you’re speaking to will reject your ideas. But until you get to the root and realize it’s not the fear of public speaking, but the fear of rejection, that fear will manifest itself in numerous other ways. It could keep you from meeting new people, applying for a new job or promotion, or any other circumstance where the fear of rejection could come into play. But once you get to the root cause of the actual fear, then you can work on overcoming it.

Here are a few practices that can help.

Face Your Fears: Avoidance only reinforces fear. Instead of retreating from challenges, confront them head-on. Start with small, manageable steps, gradually exposing yourself to situations that trigger anxiety. With each successful encounter, your confidence will grow, diminishing the power of fear.

Challenge Negative Beliefs:Fear often stems from distorted thinking and irrational beliefs. Challenge these negative perceptions by questioning their validity and seeking evidence to the contrary. Replace self-limiting beliefs with affirmations and positive self-talk, fostering a more optimistic and empowering mindset. Do you realize that our fears are not usually based on fact; they are based on feeling. A study by the University of Michigan revealed: 60 percent of our fears are totally unwarranted, meaning the things we fear never come to pass. 20 percent of our fears are based in the past, which means they are out of our control. 10 percent of our fears are so petty that they can make no difference at all. Of the other 10 percent, only 4 to 5 percent are real and justifiable fears.

Set Realistic Goals: Break down daunting tasks into smaller, achievable goals. Celebrate each milestone along the way, acknowledging your progress and resilience. By setting realistic expectations, you can build momentum towards overcoming your fears.

Grow Your Resilience: Embrace setbacks and failures as opportunities for growth and learning. View challenges as stepping stones towards personal development, rather than insurmountable obstacles. Cultivate resilience by adopting a growth mindset, embracing change, and reframing setbacks as valuable lessons.

Visualize Success: Harness the power of visualization to mentally rehearse success. Picture yourself overcoming obstacles with confidence and grace, imagining the positive outcomes that wait on the other side. Visualization can instill a sense of belief and determination, fueling your journey toward fearlessness.

The best things, the things you really want, are on the other side of fear. You have to pay a price to get the good things. Look at your fear and know that conquering it will make you a better, stronger person.

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through his horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ The danger lies in refusing to face the fear, in not daring to come to grips with it. “ John C Maxwell.

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