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Love and Marriage-Planning Past The Party

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Marriage is love, commitment, and companionship. It’s also receipts, shared passwords, and arguments about whether buying an $800 espresso machine is “an investment” or “completely ridiculous.” Love may be blind, but money has 20/20 vision and it’s keeping score. So if you’re planning to say “I do,” it’s smart to figure out your financial life before it turns into a reality show called Who Spent What?

Money can either be a glue that bonds or a bomb that explodes. The difference comes down to communication, planning, and resisting the urge to lie about how much your shoes really cost.

Start with a Financial Full-Frontal (No Shame Zone)

Before you merge bank accounts or pick a wedding hashtag, strip it all down, credit scores, debt, income, savings, and spending habits. This is not the time for filters. You need to know if your partner is a frugal wizard or a closet spender who thinks the word “budget” is a personal attack.

Approach this like a team huddle, not a courtroom deposition. No guilt-tripping. Everyone has financial baggage, whether it’s student loans, medical bills, or a Venmo history that reads like a fast-food tour of the entire U.S. What matters is honesty and a willingness to work together.

One Account? Two Accounts? Three? Do What Actually Works

There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to combining finances. Some couples go all-in with one joint account. Others split everything 50/50. And then there are those who create a joint fund for shared expenses and keep personal accounts for independence…and impulse buys.

Here’s a better way to picture it: treat your finances like planning a trip. Your personal accounts are like solo adventures-you decide the pace and the destination. Shared bills and expenses? Those are like traveling with a buddy-coordination and communication are key. And your long-term savings? That’s the dream vacation you’re both working toward-something that takes planning, patience, and teamwork. The secret to a smooth journey? Stay transparent and check in often, so no one ends up lost or footing the whole bill.

Designate a CFO—but Rotate the Role

Every household needs a Chief Financial Officer, but don’t let one person always be the budget police. That creates a weird parent-child type dynamic. Rotate who handles the monthly finances. One month, you track bills and savings. Next month, they do. It keeps things fair and forces both of you to stay engaged, and maybe even discover that spreadsheets are oddly satisfying.

Turn Money Fights into Strategy Sessions

Arguments about money are really arguments about values, fears, and expectations. It’s not about the $300 on sushi. It’s about whether you feel secure, respected, or heard.

So instead of fighting over past decisions, make a game plan. If one of you is a saver and the other is a spender, define roles. The saver keeps an eye on the safety net. The spender finds deals and upgrades your life without wrecking the budget. Different approaches can balance each other—if you recognize them as assets, not flaws.

Also, give yourselves a “no-fight zone.” Set a time, maybe Saturday afternoon, post-coffee, when you talk money like teammates, not gladiators. Use humor. Laugh about your worst purchases. (“Remember when I thought I’d become a home mixologist and bought a cocktail shaker set that’s now just holding pens?”)

Build a Plan Bigger Than the Wedding

Weddings are fun. But marriage is Tuesday night groceries, car repairs, and retirement accounts. So plan past the party.

Talk long-term: Do you want kids? A house? To travel? Start a business? Retire early? These dreams need dollar amounts. The earlier you map out your life goals, the more aligned your money decisions will be and the fewer “how did we get here?” moments you’ll have.

Make saving a joint mission. Treat it like a game: name your savings goals, celebrate milestones, and challenge yourselves to have “no-spend” weekends where creativity replaces consumption. Who knew board games, frozen pizza, and bad karaoke could actually feel like progress?

The Bottom Line: Love Is Work. So Is Money. So Do the Work Together.

Marriage isn’t just a romantic union. It’s a financial partnership with receipts. If you approach it like a team sport, with honesty, flexibility, and a sense of humor, you’ll be way ahead of the curve. Yes, you’ll have weird expenses, surprise bills, and moments where you stare at each other like, “Why did we think we could afford a dog and a vacation?”

But you’ll also have a plan, a shared mission, and if you play it right, a joint account that still has money in it at the end of the month.

Now go talk about money with love, laughter, and maybe a spreadsheet. Or at least a calculator and a cup of tea.

Smart Money Moves to Make When Life Takes a Turn

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Life doesn’t always go according to plan. One day, everything feels stable and predictable. The next, you’re navigating a major change—a new job, a divorce, an unexpected illness, the birth of a child, retirement, or maybe the loss of someone you love.

Big transitions like these don’t just affect your daily routine. They also shake up your finances in ways that can feel overwhelming and even scary. Suddenly, the budget you’ve been sticking to doesn’t make sense anymore. Your savings goals feel out of reach. And you’re left wondering how to make smart decisions when everything is shifting around you.

If this sounds familiar, take a deep breath. You’re not alone. And while you can’t always control the change itself, you can take thoughtful steps to manage the financial ripple effects that come with it.

When life throws something big at you, it’s natural to want to take action right away. But sometimes, the best first step is to slow down.

Give yourself permission to hit “pause” and assess what’s really changed in your financial picture. Has your income shifted? Are there new expenses to plan for? Are you facing a gap in coverage, like health insurance or child care?

Taking the time to understand what’s happening can give you clarity. And that clarity can lead to smarter decisions down the road.

Your budget isn’t meant to be a one-size-fits-all forever plan. It’s a tool that should grow and adapt with you. That means when life changes, your budget needs to change, too.

Maybe you’re suddenly earning more—but also spending more on child care. Or perhaps you’ve lost a source of income and need to trim back on dining out and subscriptions. Whatever your situation, a fresh look at your budget can help you regain a sense of control.

You don’t need to figure out a long-term plan overnight. A short-term “transition budget” can help you get through the next few months until things settle. The key is to make your money reflect your reality—not the other way around.

One of the most overlooked parts of managing financial change is checking your safety nets. When life throws a curveball, having an emergency fund, insurance coverage, or support plan in place can be the difference between stress and stability.

Take this time to evaluate your backup plans. Do you have a cushion of savings in case something else unexpected pops up? Is your insurance coverage up to date with your current needs? If you’ve started or left a job, are there new benefits or gaps to be aware of?

Even small changes—like adjusting a deductible or reviewing your life insurance policy—can bring big peace of mind.

It’s not the most glamorous part of a life change, but updating your financial documents is crucial. This includes things like wills, beneficiaries on retirement accounts, powers of attorney, and even simple things like updating your mailing address with your bank.

During times of transition, it’s easy to overlook these details. But getting them squared away protects your financial well-being and prevents future headaches.

Here’s the truth: You don’t have to be a financial expert to make smart choices during change. And you don’t have to figure everything out on your own.

Talking to a financial coach or advisor can give you clarity and guidance, especially when you’re feeling stuck or emotional. Sometimes just having someone to walk through the numbers with you—without judgment—can bring a huge sense of relief.

Support matters. And the right help can turn a chaotic time into a turning point.

It might not feel like it right now, but change—no matter how hard—can be a catalyst. It’s a chance to realign your money with the life you want going forward.

Maybe that means being more intentional with your spending. Or finally tackling that debt. Or building a plan that creates more freedom, peace, and purpose in your day-to-day life.

Whatever the next chapter looks like, your finances can support it. And you don’t have to wait until things are “perfect” to get started. One small, thoughtful step at a time is all it takes.

Good Intentions Don’t Pay the Bills

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Let’s be honest: most of us have had that one moment where we told ourselves, “This is it. I’m finally going to get my finances in order.”
We made the vow.
We followed a few money gurus on Instagram.
We even opened a shiny new budgeting app.

But then…
Life got busy.
The motivation faded.
The credit card statement arrived, and the cycle started all over again.

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. But here’s the truth: no matter how much you want to be better with money, nothing changes unless you do.

The Problem With Good Intentions

Good intentions feel productive, don’t they? You mean to start saving. You plan to track your spending. You hope this will be the year you finally stop living paycheck to paycheck.

But if nothing actually happens, then all of that planning is just wishful thinking.

Because good intentions without follow-through are like writing a grocery list and never going to the store. You stay hungry, despite having the best of plans.

Why Taking Action Matters More Than Motivation

Motivation is great—but it’s unreliable.
Some days, you’ll feel like conquering your finances. Other days, you just want tacos and Target runs. And let’s be real—Netflix and takeout are way more tempting than logging into your budgeting app.

That’s why you need habits, not just hype.

Creating strong financial habits—like tracking your expenses, reviewing your bank account weekly, and automatically transferring money to savings—builds momentum that lasts even on low-energy days. It’s these small, consistent actions that move you forward, not the fleeting bursts of motivation.

Wishful Thinking Keeps You Stuck

You can dream of being debt-free. You can imagine what it would feel like to not stress about money. But without action, those dreams stay exactly that—dreams.

Let’s say you tell yourself, “I really want to build up my emergency fund.”
Cool. So what’s the plan?

If you don’t:

  • Set a specific goal,
  • Automate your savings,
  • Adjust your spending…

That emergency fund won’t grow itself. It’s not because you didn’t want it. It’s because you didn’t work it.

How to Turn Intentions Into Results

Here’s where you take back control. Start small and stay consistent:

  1. Pick One Habit to Start With
    Track every dollar you spend for one week. Just watch what happens.
  2. Automate What You Can
    Schedule a small, regular transfer to savings—even $10 a week is a great start.
  3. Set a Weekly Money Check-In
    Every Sunday (or whatever day works), spend 15 minutes reviewing your finances.
  4. Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection
    You don’t need to overhaul your whole life in a weekend. Just keep going.

Bottom Line: You Can’t Budget Your Way to Change With Your Eyes Closed

You already have the desire. That’s step one. But the real magic?
It happens when you take that desire and back it up with action.

Because at the end of the day, your bills don’t care about your good intentions.
Your savings account won’t grow on hope alone.
And your future self?
They’re counting on you to not just want change, but to create it.

Ready to stop wishing and start winning with money?
One small step today can lead to a very different tomorrow.

Money Talks

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Talking about money isn’t always easy. In fact, for many people, discussing finances ranks right up there with going to the dentist or assembling furniture from an instruction manual written in another language. But just like regular checkups, financial conversations are essential.

Why Talking About Money Matters

Money isn’t just about numbers on a spreadsheet—it’s about security, dreams, relationships, and sometimes, let’s be real, stress. Open and honest conversations about finances can prevent financial surprises (the bad kind, like unexpected debt or overspending). But it can also strengthen relationships, help you achieve financial goals faster, and reduce financial anxiety.

Ignoring money matters won’t make them disappear, just like ignoring laundry won’t magically fold your clothes (unfortunately). Because what we avoid tends to grow into a bigger problem, right?

The key is approaching these conversations with clarity, kindness, and a game plan.

How to Have Productive Financial Conversations

Start with the right mindset. If you go into a money talk feeling defensive or judgmental, it’s going to be about as fun as stepping on a LEGO. Instead, frame the conversation as a positive opportunity to grow together, solve problems, and plan for the future.

Timing is everything. Trying to discuss your budget while juggling groceries and a toddler? Not ideal. Choose a calm, distraction-free time to talk. Maybe over coffee on a Saturday morning or during a relaxed evening at home.

Be honest but respectful. If money mistakes have been made, avoid blaming and shaming. Instead of saying, “You always spend too much on takeout,” try, “I’d love for us to figure out how we can save more on food without giving up the things we enjoy.” Less finger-pointing, more problem-solving.

Get clear on goals. Are you saving for a house? Paying off debt? Building an emergency fund? Knowing your financial goals makes conversations more productive. It’s easier to make sacrifices when you see the bigger picture—like how skipping that daily take out lunch can add up to a dream vacation!

Use ‘we’ statements, especially if you’re discussing finances with a partner. Instead of making it a “you vs. me” battle with phrases like, “You need to stop spending so much,” try, “How can we create a budget that works for both of us?” A collaborative approach works much better than a combative one.

For single people, financial conversations are just as important—just in a different way. Maybe it’s time to ask for that raise you deserve, explore side hustles, or dive into investing. Talking with a mentor or financial coach can help you strategize for long-term financial success and can give you fresh perspectives

Don’t forget to include kids in money conversations. Teaching children about budgeting, saving, and the value of a dollar early on can set them up for lifelong financial success. Keep it simple—talk about saving for a toy, earning an allowance, or even making smart spending choices at the store. Kids who learn about money young grow up to be adults who manage it well.

Make it a regular thing. Money talks shouldn’t only happen when there’s a crisis. Set up regular check-ins—monthly, quarterly, or whatever works for you—to keep things on track and avoid unpleasant surprises.

And if things get tricky, bring in a third party. A financial coach (hey, like me!) can provide guidance, tools, and a game plan that makes navigating finances easier and less stressful.

The Bottom Line

Talking about money doesn’t have to be awkward or scary. In fact, when done right, it can strengthen relationships, reduce stress, and get you closer to your financial goals. So, grab a cup of coffee, sit down with your partner, friend, or business associate, and start the conversation. If you’re single, take time to evaluate your own financial journey, set goals, and maybe even negotiate that well-earned raise. And if you have kids, start teaching them early—because good money habits begin young. Who knows? You might even enjoy it (or at least enjoy checking it off your to-do list).

Why Simplify? Because Chaos is Overrated

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Ah, spring.

It’s that time of year when we clean up and clear out. But what if we include more than just our house in the decluttering process?

Life has a way of throwing curveballs—new jobs, marriage, divorce, babies, retirement… you name it. And just when you think you’ve got your finances figured out, boom! Everything changes.

If your financial situation already feels like a tangled mess of accounts, bills, and random subscriptions you forgot about (looking at you, streaming service #4), a big life change can make things even more stressful. That’s why simplifying your finances before—or during—a transition is one of the best things you can do for your sanity.

Let’s break it down, make it easy, and maybe even have a little fun along the way.

Financial transitions are already a lot to handle. Whether you’re dealing with a new income, adjusting expenses, or signing an overwhelming stack of paperwork, keeping your money simple can make all the difference.

When your finances are streamlined, you:
Stress less – Fewer accounts, fewer headaches.
Make smarter decisions – Clarity = confidence.
Save time – No more digging through statements wondering, What even is this charge?
Adapt more quickly – When life changes, your money moves with you, not against you.

So, how do we declutter the financial mess? Let’s get into it.

Step 1: Clean Up Your Accounts

Ever feel like you have too many bank accounts, credit cards, or investment apps? If managing your money feels like a part-time job, it’s time to consolidate.

Keep it simple: One checking account, one savings account, and only the credit cards you actually use. (Unless you have a specific account set up as a Christmas, vacation, emergency etc. fund)
Close unused accounts: That old savings account with $3.27 in it? Time to say goodbye.

Action Step: Make a list of all your accounts and see which ones you can combine or close. Less is more!

Step 2: Put Your Money on Autopilot

Life is busy. The last thing you need is to remember 15 different bill due dates. Automate your finances and let your money do the work for you.

Set up auto-pay for bills so you never miss a payment.
Automate savings – Pay yourself first before you spend a dime.
Direct deposit wisely – If possible, send a portion straight to savings so you never even miss it.

Action Step: Log into your bank and set up automatic transfers for savings and bills. Future-you will be grateful.

Step 3: Cancel the “Money Drains”

We’ve all signed up for things we don’t use (RIP to that gym membership we swore we’d use). These sneaky subscriptions add up fast.

Go through your bank or credit card statements – Find any recurring charges that don’t serve you.
Cancel what you don’t need – No shame in ditching that online magazine subscription from 2017.

Action Step: Check your subscriptions right now. Bonus points if you cancel at least one today!

Step 4: Simplify Your Budget (No Fancy Spreadsheets Required)

If budgeting sounds as fun as a root canal, you’re doing it wrong. Instead of tracking 57 categories, you can try the 50/30/20 rule:

  • 50% Needs (rent, food, bills)
  • 30% Wants (fun money, entertainment)
  • 20% Savings & Debt Payoff

That’s it. Simple, flexible, and easy to follow.

Action Step: Take a look at your spending and see where you can adjust to fit this method.

Step 5: Get Rid of Debt Faster

Debt is like an unwanted houseguest—it sticks around longer than you’d like and costs you money. Paying off debt faster will free up cash for things you actually want. Choose your weapon…

Tackle high-interest debt first (going for the avalanche).

Payoff the smallest debt first and use the momentum to payoff the rest of your debt. (aka snowballing)

Action Step: Make a list of all your debts and choose one to start paying off. Even small extra payments help!

Step 6: Build an Emergency Fund (Because Life Happens)

Car repairs, medical bills, or oops-I-forgot-about-that expenses pop up when you least expect them. A safety net of 3–6 months of expenses can save you from panic mode.

Start small: Even $500 is better than nothing.
Make it automatic: Set up a tiny weekly transfer into savings—you won’t even notice.

Action Step: If you don’t have an emergency fund, open a savings account today and put in whatever you can then be consistent even if adding only $5 a week.

Final Thoughts: Keep It Simple, Stay in Control

When life throws a big change your way, don’t let your finances add to the chaos. By simplifying now, you’ll be ready for anything—job changes, new adventures, or just a little more peace of mind. And hey, if you need some help getting things in order, I’ve got your back.

Breaking Money Myths: The Truth About Your Finances

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Money is a tricky subject. We all use it, stress about it, and try to make more of it—but let’s be honest, most of us are winging it. And thanks to a mix of well-meaning relatives, the social media guru selling you a course for only $7.99, and that one friend who swears by crypto but still owes you $50, financial myths spread like wildfire.

It’s time to put an end to the nonsense. Let’s bust some of the biggest money myths out there so you can make smarter decisions and keep more cash in your pocket (where it belongs).

Myth #1: “Debt Is the Root of All Evil”

Look, no one wakes up thinking, “Wow, I’d love to be drowning in debt today!” But not all debt is bad. There’s “good debt” and “bad debt”—and knowing the difference is key.

  • Good debt: Student loans, mortgages, business loans—these can help you build a better future (as long as you don’t go overboard).
  • Bad debt: High-interest credit cards, payday loans, and financing a boat you can’t afford just to impress your neighbors.

Debt isn’t the enemy—it’s how you use it that matters. Just don’t let it use you. Keeping it to a minimum is key.

Myth #2: “You Need a Huge Salary to Get Rich”

If that were true, why do so many celebrities go bankrupt? (Looking at you, lottery winners and former NFL players.) The truth is, wealth is built on smart habits, not just a fat paycheck.

  • People with modest incomes can still build wealth by budgeting, saving, and investing wisely.
  • Many millionaires started small and got rich by being disciplined, not by earning six figures from day one.

More money can help, sure—but it won’t fix bad money habits.

Myth #3: “Renting Is Just Throwing Money Away”

Ah, the old “if you rent, you’re just paying your landlord’s mortgage!” argument. While buying a home can be great, it’s not always the best financial move.

  • Renting gives you flexibility—perfect if you move often or don’t want to be tied down by a mortgage.
  • Owning a home comes with hidden costs: repairs, property taxes, and those surprise plumbing disasters that seem to happen at the worst possible moment.

The key? Do what works for you. Not everyone needs to be a homeowner, and that’s okay.

Myth #4: “Investing Is Only for Rich People”

If you think investing is just for Wall Street hotshots, think again. These days, you can start investing with as little as $5.

  • Apps and online platforms make it easy to invest in small amounts.
  • The earlier you start, the more you benefit from the magic of compound interest (a.k.a. free money over time).

Waiting until you’re “rich enough” to invest is like waiting until you’re in shape to go to the gym. Just start.

Myth #5: “Pay Off Your Mortgage ASAP—No Exceptions!”

Sure, being debt-free sounds amazing, but rushing to pay off a low-interest mortgage isn’t always the smartest move.

  • If your mortgage has a low rate, extra money might be better spent investing where you can earn a higher return.
  • Having cash in hand (aka liquidity) is often more useful than locking it all into your home equity.

It’s all about balance. If it makes you sleep better at night, go ahead and pay extra—but don’t assume it’s the only path to financial freedom.

Myth #6: “More Money = No More Money Problems”

Ah, if only. The truth is, making more money won’t magically solve financial issues if you don’t know how to manage it.

  • Plenty of high earners still live paycheck to paycheck because they overspend.
  • Learning how to budget, save, and invest is the real secret to financial security—no matter how much you make.

More money can help, but if your spending habits are out of control, you’ll always feel broke.

Myth #7: “Credit Cards Are Pure Evil”

Credit cards can be a disaster if misused—but they can also be a great financial tool.

  • They help build your credit score (which you’ll need for major purchases like a house or car).
  • Many offer perks like cashback, travel rewards, and fraud protection (cash doesn’t do that!).
  • The trick? Pay off your balance in full each month—no exceptions.

Credit cards aren’t the villain here—bad spending habits are.

Final Thoughts: Take Charge of Your Money (and Ignore the Myths)

The biggest financial mistake you can make? Believing everything you hear. Money myths can hold you back, but breaking free from them puts you in control of your financial future.

The truth is, financial success isn’t about luck, being born rich, or suddenly stumbling upon a million-dollar idea (though that would be nice). It’s about knowledge, discipline, and making smart choices every day.

So, what money myths have you believed? It’s time to rethink them, take charge, and start making your money work for you!

Finding Financial Purpose: It’s More Than Just Paying the Bills

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Let’s be real—most of us didn’t grow up dreaming about creating a killer budget or getting excited over a high-yield savings account. If you did, congratulations! You were probably the kid in Monopoly who owned all the railroads and charged rent with a smirk. But for the rest of us, money often feels like a necessary evil—something we need to survive rather than a tool to build the life we truly want.

But what if your finances had a bigger purpose than just covering rent, utilities, and an occasional coffee splurge? (No judgment—lattes are practically a life necessity.) What if you could find a deeper, more meaningful reason behind the way you earn, spend, save, and invest? That, my friend, is your financial purpose.

Think about it—most of life’s big decisions involve money. Want to travel the world? You’ll need a financial plan. Dream of quitting your soul-sucking job to start a passion project? Yep, that takes money too. Even seemingly simple things, like having the freedom to say “yes” to dinner with friends or “no” to yet another tempting online sale, come down to having control over your finances. Your financial purpose gives you a reason to be intentional with your money. It’s what helps you push past the temptation of impulse buys and keep your eye on the bigger picture. Without it, managing your finances can feel like running on a hamster wheel—working hard but not really getting anywhere.

To find your financial purpose, start by getting real about what you want. Forget about what society says you should do with your money. Do you actually want a big house, or would you rather have the freedom to travel? Is early retirement your goal, or do you see yourself working forever because you genuinely love what you do? Your financial purpose starts with what you want out of life.

Look at how you currently spend money. Your bank statements tell a story—what does yours say? Are you spending on things that align with your values, or are you funding Amazon’s next big expansion? Tracking your expenses can help you see if your spending habits are leading you toward or away from your financial purpose.

Think beyond just saving. Saving money is great, but it’s not the end goal. What are you saving for? Whether it’s security, adventure, giving back, or building generational wealth, knowing your “why” will make it easier to stay motivated. Once you have an idea of what you want and why, it’s time to create a plan that aligns with it. This could mean setting up an investment strategy, prioritizing debt payoff, or even just putting a cap on how many subscription services you actually use. Do you really need five different streaming platforms?

Give yourself permission to enjoy money. Finding your financial purpose isn’t about hoarding every dollar or feeling guilty for spending. It’s about using money as a tool to create a life that feels fulfilling. So yes, buy the occasional fancy coffee or take that trip—just do it with intention.

Your financial purpose is about more than numbers—it’s about creating a life that excites you. It’s about making decisions that lead to financial freedom, not just financial survival. So take a step back, figure out what really matters to you, and start putting your money toward a future that actually makes you want to check your bank account. And if that future includes a beachside villa, well, let’s start planning now!

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How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy

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Let’s be real: managing finances can feel like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without the instructions—except instead of ending up with a wobbly bookshelf, you’re left wondering where all your money went. And more often than not, the culprit isn’t your boss for not giving you that raise or having a loan not approved by a financial institution. It’s you. Yes, you. Your decisions, habits, and that one voice in your head whispering, “Treat yourself,” are often the biggest hurdles standing between you and financial peace of mind.

Here’s a familiar story, but this time told in its entirety. Let me introduce you to Rachel. Rachel’s a 28-year-old with a decent-paying job and dreams of owning her own home someday. But Rachel has a little problem: she loves her morning coffee runs. Now, Rachel isn’t sipping your standard $2 cup of joe. Nope, she’s all about the venti caramel-whipped-foam-extra-shot-latte…that costs $7 a pop….minimum.

It’s harmless, right? Just $7. But here’s the thing: Rachel doesn’t just stop at coffee. There’s also the $12 avocado toast she grabs for breakfast a few times a week and the $25 takeout she gets for lunch because “packing lunch is so boring.” Multiply this routine over the course of a month, and Rachel’s suddenly $1,260 lighter in her wallet.

Now, let’s pause. Did Rachel’s latte-buying habit singlehandedly ruin her financial life? Not really. But this little daily indulgence, multiplied by her other “innocent” spending habits, meant Rachel wasn’t saving much. And every time she sat down to budget, she’d sigh and say, “Ugh, I don’t know why I’m always broke!”

Sound familiar?

We all have a little “Rachel” in us. Maybe your Achilles heel isn’t fancy coffee—it’s impulse online shopping (hello, late-night Amazon purchases), splurging on the newest gadgets, or refusing to say no to that monthly subscription box you don’t even open anymore. Whatever it is, it’s these small, seemingly harmless choices that can snowball into major financial stress.

Here’s the deal: the problem isn’t spending money. It’s spending money mindlessly. We sabotage ourselves by ignoring the big picture, brushing off small expenses, or avoiding honest conversations about our financial habits.

So why Do We Do This to Ourselves?

Money isn’t just numbers on a spreadsheet—it’s emotional. We spend when we’re stressed, bored, or trying to reward ourselves. And let’s face it: FOMO (fear of missing out) is real. We’d rather swipe our cards to keep up with the group dinner or splurge on a trendy item than face the (false) shame of saying, “I can’t afford it.”

But the truth is that financial self-sabotage is often rooted in avoiding discomfort. We’d rather indulge in short-term gratification than confront long-term responsibility. And honestly? It’s human.

Ready to stop being your own worst enemy? It’s easier than you think—with a little intention

  1. Track Every Penny (Yes, Every Penny): Think of tracking your expenses like investigating a mystery—where is your money sneaking off to? You might discover it’s those sneaky $3 app subscriptions or, like Rachel, an innocent coffee habit. Apps like Every Dollar, Mint or YNAB (You Need A Budget) can help turn this into a game.
  2. Create a “Fun Budget”: No, you don’t need to give up all your guilty pleasures. Budget a set amount for your indulgences—whether it’s coffee, streaming services, or treating yourself to something nice. When the fun fund runs out, that’s it for the month.
  3. Embrace the Art of “No”: Say no to impulse buys, unnecessary subscriptions, and (politely) those fancy dinners with friends if your budget doesn’t allow it. You can always suggest a potluck instead. Your future self will thank you.
  4. Focus on Your Goals: Get clear about what you’re working toward—a down payment, a vacation, or finally paying off that pesky credit card. Every time you’re tempted to make an unplanned purchase, remind yourself of the bigger picture.
  5. Laugh at Your Mistakes: So, you bought a yoga mat for $80 that you never used? Laugh about it, learn from it, and move on. Financial mistakes happen to everyone. What matters is how you bounce back.

After a bit of soul-searching (and a budgeting app), Rachel started making some changes. She swapped her daily latte for home-brewed coffee (with caramel syrup she bought for $5), packed her lunch most days, and started saving $700 a month. Six months later, she had a healthy emergency fund and was finally on track toward her dream of owning a home.

You, too, can write your own happy ending. Start small, stay consistent, and remember: you’re not alone in this. We’ve all been our own worst enemies at some point. The trick is to recognize it, laugh about it, and start treating your finances with the care they deserve.

And who knows? Maybe one day, you’ll look back and laugh about the time you spent $200 on a “limited-edition” air fryer.

Know Your ‘Why’: The Secret to Financial Peace

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What drives you? Why do you get up each day and work as hard as you do? And when it comes to your financial goals, have you ever stopped to ask yourself why?

If your answer is “I want to be rich” or “I want to retire early,” you’re not alone. But let’s dig a little deeper. What does being rich actually mean to you? What does early retirement look like in your life? If you’re unsure, you may be chasing a dream that feels more like an obligation than a vision worth fighting for.


Here’s the truth: Money isn’t the end goal. It’s the means to live the life you want, to create security, opportunities, and freedom for yourself and those you care about. But to use money as a tool, you need to first define what you’re building.

Do you want to:

  • Buy your dream home by the lake?
  • Take a month-long vacation with your family every year?
  • Start a business that aligns with your passion?
  • Retire early so you can travel or volunteer more?

Each of these dreams carries emotion, purpose, and clarity. That’s the power of knowing your “why.” It makes your goals feel personal, not generic, and gives you the motivation to stick to the plan when the going gets tough.


When you have a clear purpose behind your financial goals, it:

  1. Keeps You Focused: Life throws curveballs. When you’re tempted to splurge on something unnecessary or feel discouraged, your “why” reminds you of the bigger picture.
  2. Makes Sacrifices Easier: Saving and investing require discipline. When you tie your financial habits to a meaningful purpose, it’s easier to say no to fleeting temptations and yes to long-term rewards.
  3. Builds Resilience: Challenges are inevitable. But if your goal is deeply tied to something you care about, you’ll find the strength to overcome setbacks and keep moving forward.
  4. Creates Fulfillment: Achieving financial goals rooted in purpose feels more rewarding than hitting arbitrary milestones. You’re not just crossing off a checklist—you’re building the life you’ve always dreamed of.


Don’t worry if your “why” shifts over time—that’s natural. The dreams you have in your 30s might differ from those in your 50s. The key is to consistently evaluate and realign your goals with what truly matters to you.

Take a moment to reflect on your current financial goals. Why do they matter to you? If they don’t light a fire in your soul, it might be time to redefine them.

Start with These Steps

  1. Visualize your dream life. What does it look like? Who’s with you? What are you doing?
  2. Write down your top three financial goals. For each, ask yourself why it’s important.
  3. Share your goals with someone you trust. Talking them through can bring clarity and accountability.
  4. Revisit your goals regularly to ensure they still align with your evolving vision.


Your financial goals should feel like a roadmap to a life filled with purpose, passion, and peace of mind—not just numbers in a bank account. When you know your “why,” you transform your financial journey into a meaningful adventure.

So, what’s your why? And how will it shape your financial future?

If you’re ready to uncover the purpose behind your goals and create a plan that works for you, I’m here to help. Let’s design a roadmap that turns your dreams into reality.

How to Overcome Money Obstacles During the Holiday Season

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Ah, the holidays—the season of joy, laughter, and…let’s be honest, financial stress. Between gift shopping, travel expenses, and countless “treat yourself” moments, it’s easy to find yourself in a spending spiral. But don’t let your holiday cheer get buried under a pile of receipts. With a little creativity and planning, you can sidestep those money obstacles and truly enjoy the season.

And if you find yourself already behind the eight ball, use these ideas to stay ahead of the game next year!

Redefine What “Gifting” Means

Spoiler alert: not all gifts come from a store. Some of the most cherished presents are those with a personal touch. Instead of splurging on pricey items, try:

  • DIY gifts: Bake cookies, make scented candles, or put together a “movie night” basket with popcorn and a classic DVD.
  • Acts of service: Offer to babysit for a friend, help a family member with a home project, or share your professional skills as a unique gift.
  • Shared experiences: Plan a cozy potluck or game night instead of exchanging gifts. Memories outlast material things.

Get Real with Your Budget

Think of your holiday spending as a big puzzle—everything has to fit, or the picture doesn’t come together. Start by:

  1. Listing every expense: Include gifts, decorations, groceries, travel, and even your morning latte habit.
  2. Setting limits: Decide how much you can afford in total, then break it down by category. Then stick to it!
  3. Tracking as you go: Apps like Mint or YNAB can help you stay on top of your spending in real time.

A helpful tip: Stick to cash or a debit card for holiday shopping. It’s harder to overspend when you’re working with physical dollars.

Flip FOMO on Its Head

The holidays are prime territory for FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). Sales, parties, and social media feeds bursting with festive luxury can make it seem like everyone is living large. But here’s the truth: the most valuable moments don’t come with a price tag.

Instead of falling into the comparison trap:

  • Practice gratitude: Write down three things you’re thankful for each day. It’ll keep your focus on what truly matters.
  • Make your own traditions: Start a “holiday lights walk” in your neighborhood or host a movie marathon with friends. Fun doesn’t have to cost a thing.

Reframe Your Mindset About Giving

If you’ve ever thought, I need to spend more to show I care, it’s time for a holiday reality check. True generosity isn’t about the size of your wallet—it’s about the intention behind your actions.

  • Focus on meaning: Write heartfelt notes to your loved ones. A letter explaining why you appreciate someone can be more impactful than the priciest gift.
  • Teach your kids (and yourself): Use the holiday season to teach children about thoughtful giving and budgeting. You’ll be creating future money-savvy adults.

Plan Now, Celebrate Later

Planning is your best friend during the holidays. Think of it as your secret weapon for dodging those January blues when the credit card bill arrives.

  • Start shopping early: Sales happen year-round, so keep an eye out for deals well before December.
  • Use sinking funds: Save a little each month throughout the year specifically for holiday expenses. Even $20 a month adds up to $240 by the end of the year.
  • Say “no” when needed: It’s okay to skip the third Secret Santa exchange if it doesn’t fit your budget. Boundaries are a gift to yourself.

The holidays don’t have to be a financial free-for-all. By embracing creativity, sticking to a plan, and shifting your mindset, you can make this season about connection and joy—not credit card debt.

The spirit of the holidays isn’t about how much you spend. It’s about how much you love, share, and create meaningful memories.

This year, let go of the financial stress and focus on what truly matters. You might even discover a few new traditions along the way.

Here’s to a holiday season full of cheer—and zero financial regret!