Talking about money isn’t always easy. In fact, for many people, discussing finances ranks right up there with going to the dentist or assembling furniture from an instruction manual written in another language. But just like regular checkups, financial conversations are essential.

Why Talking About Money Matters

Money isn’t just about numbers on a spreadsheet—it’s about security, dreams, relationships, and sometimes, let’s be real, stress. Open and honest conversations about finances can prevent financial surprises (the bad kind, like unexpected debt or overspending). But it can also strengthen relationships, help you achieve financial goals faster, and reduce financial anxiety.

Ignoring money matters won’t make them disappear, just like ignoring laundry won’t magically fold your clothes (unfortunately). Because what we avoid tends to grow into a bigger problem, right?

The key is approaching these conversations with clarity, kindness, and a game plan.

How to Have Productive Financial Conversations

Start with the right mindset. If you go into a money talk feeling defensive or judgmental, it’s going to be about as fun as stepping on a LEGO. Instead, frame the conversation as a positive opportunity to grow together, solve problems, and plan for the future.

Timing is everything. Trying to discuss your budget while juggling groceries and a toddler? Not ideal. Choose a calm, distraction-free time to talk. Maybe over coffee on a Saturday morning or during a relaxed evening at home.

Be honest but respectful. If money mistakes have been made, avoid blaming and shaming. Instead of saying, “You always spend too much on takeout,” try, “I’d love for us to figure out how we can save more on food without giving up the things we enjoy.” Less finger-pointing, more problem-solving.

Get clear on goals. Are you saving for a house? Paying off debt? Building an emergency fund? Knowing your financial goals makes conversations more productive. It’s easier to make sacrifices when you see the bigger picture—like how skipping that daily take out lunch can add up to a dream vacation!

Use ‘we’ statements, especially if you’re discussing finances with a partner. Instead of making it a “you vs. me” battle with phrases like, “You need to stop spending so much,” try, “How can we create a budget that works for both of us?” A collaborative approach works much better than a combative one.

For single people, financial conversations are just as important—just in a different way. Maybe it’s time to ask for that raise you deserve, explore side hustles, or dive into investing. Talking with a mentor or financial coach can help you strategize for long-term financial success and can give you fresh perspectives

Don’t forget to include kids in money conversations. Teaching children about budgeting, saving, and the value of a dollar early on can set them up for lifelong financial success. Keep it simple—talk about saving for a toy, earning an allowance, or even making smart spending choices at the store. Kids who learn about money young grow up to be adults who manage it well.

Make it a regular thing. Money talks shouldn’t only happen when there’s a crisis. Set up regular check-ins—monthly, quarterly, or whatever works for you—to keep things on track and avoid unpleasant surprises.

And if things get tricky, bring in a third party. A financial coach (hey, like me!) can provide guidance, tools, and a game plan that makes navigating finances easier and less stressful.

The Bottom Line

Talking about money doesn’t have to be awkward or scary. In fact, when done right, it can strengthen relationships, reduce stress, and get you closer to your financial goals. So, grab a cup of coffee, sit down with your partner, friend, or business associate, and start the conversation. If you’re single, take time to evaluate your own financial journey, set goals, and maybe even negotiate that well-earned raise. And if you have kids, start teaching them early—because good money habits begin young. Who knows? You might even enjoy it (or at least enjoy checking it off your to-do list).