personal-finance

Money on Your Mind?

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Money stress is real. Whether you’re staring down a stack of bills, going through a job change, navigating a divorce, or just trying to stretch your dollars to the end of the month, it can feel like your brain never gets a break. It’s like your finances moved into your head and turned the volume all the way up.

But here’s something most people never say out loud: you are allowed to rest—even when your finances aren’t perfect. Actually, especially when your finances aren’t perfect.

Let’s be honest—worrying 24/7 doesn’t magically make money appear or create that perfect budget you can stick to. What it does is drain your energy, mess with your sleep, and leave you feeling anxious or stuck. Your shoulders get tighter. Your jaw clenches. Your mind races at 2 a.m. with what-ifs and worst-case scenarios. Sound familiar?

That constant pressure can lead to some not-so-great decisions. Maybe you overspend to feel better. Maybe you avoid looking at your bank account. Or maybe you freeze up and do nothing at all because you just can’t deal. Totally normal reactions—but not helpful ones.

Now, imagine if you hit pause. Just for a moment.

Not forever. Not in a “bury-your-head-in-the-sand” kind of way. But in a “let’s give my brain a minute to chill so I can think straight” kind of way. That kind of rest—mental, emotional, even spiritual—isn’t laziness. It’s smart. It’s necessary. And believe it or not, it’s actually good for your finances.

When you take a break from the stress, you start thinking more clearly. You spot better solutions. You become more intentional instead of reactive. You make decisions that align with your long-term goals instead of chasing a quick fix. You get your creativity back. You breathe easier. And guess what? You’re way more likely to follow through on those budgeting plans, savings goals, or side hustle ideas when your nervous system isn’t fried.

Sometimes resting means going for a walk and leaving your phone at home. Sometimes it’s saying, “I’ve done what I can today, and that’s enough.” Sometimes it’s calling a friend and talking about anything but money. And sometimes, it’s just being still, praying, meditating, or sipping your favorite tea without guilt.

You don’t have to earn rest by having everything figured out. You can rest right in the middle of the mess. Right in the middle of the progress. Because you’re human. And because taking care of yourself is part of taking care of your finances.

So breathe. Stretch. Laugh. Cry. Take a nap. Light a candle. Dance it out in your kitchen if that’s your vibe. Let your body and your brain know: we’re not living in panic mode today.

You’ve got this. And even if things feel tight right now, you’re not stuck. You’re learning, growing, and becoming someone who handles money with clarity and confidence. That version of you? They need rest too.

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Money Talks

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Talking about money isn’t always easy. In fact, for many people, discussing finances ranks right up there with going to the dentist or assembling furniture from an instruction manual written in another language. But just like regular checkups, financial conversations are essential.

Why Talking About Money Matters

Money isn’t just about numbers on a spreadsheet—it’s about security, dreams, relationships, and sometimes, let’s be real, stress. Open and honest conversations about finances can prevent financial surprises (the bad kind, like unexpected debt or overspending). But it can also strengthen relationships, help you achieve financial goals faster, and reduce financial anxiety.

Ignoring money matters won’t make them disappear, just like ignoring laundry won’t magically fold your clothes (unfortunately). Because what we avoid tends to grow into a bigger problem, right?

The key is approaching these conversations with clarity, kindness, and a game plan.

How to Have Productive Financial Conversations

Start with the right mindset. If you go into a money talk feeling defensive or judgmental, it’s going to be about as fun as stepping on a LEGO. Instead, frame the conversation as a positive opportunity to grow together, solve problems, and plan for the future.

Timing is everything. Trying to discuss your budget while juggling groceries and a toddler? Not ideal. Choose a calm, distraction-free time to talk. Maybe over coffee on a Saturday morning or during a relaxed evening at home.

Be honest but respectful. If money mistakes have been made, avoid blaming and shaming. Instead of saying, “You always spend too much on takeout,” try, “I’d love for us to figure out how we can save more on food without giving up the things we enjoy.” Less finger-pointing, more problem-solving.

Get clear on goals. Are you saving for a house? Paying off debt? Building an emergency fund? Knowing your financial goals makes conversations more productive. It’s easier to make sacrifices when you see the bigger picture—like how skipping that daily take out lunch can add up to a dream vacation!

Use ‘we’ statements, especially if you’re discussing finances with a partner. Instead of making it a “you vs. me” battle with phrases like, “You need to stop spending so much,” try, “How can we create a budget that works for both of us?” A collaborative approach works much better than a combative one.

For single people, financial conversations are just as important—just in a different way. Maybe it’s time to ask for that raise you deserve, explore side hustles, or dive into investing. Talking with a mentor or financial coach can help you strategize for long-term financial success and can give you fresh perspectives

Don’t forget to include kids in money conversations. Teaching children about budgeting, saving, and the value of a dollar early on can set them up for lifelong financial success. Keep it simple—talk about saving for a toy, earning an allowance, or even making smart spending choices at the store. Kids who learn about money young grow up to be adults who manage it well.

Make it a regular thing. Money talks shouldn’t only happen when there’s a crisis. Set up regular check-ins—monthly, quarterly, or whatever works for you—to keep things on track and avoid unpleasant surprises.

And if things get tricky, bring in a third party. A financial coach (hey, like me!) can provide guidance, tools, and a game plan that makes navigating finances easier and less stressful.

The Bottom Line

Talking about money doesn’t have to be awkward or scary. In fact, when done right, it can strengthen relationships, reduce stress, and get you closer to your financial goals. So, grab a cup of coffee, sit down with your partner, friend, or business associate, and start the conversation. If you’re single, take time to evaluate your own financial journey, set goals, and maybe even negotiate that well-earned raise. And if you have kids, start teaching them early—because good money habits begin young. Who knows? You might even enjoy it (or at least enjoy checking it off your to-do list).

Why Simplify? Because Chaos is Overrated

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Ah, spring.

It’s that time of year when we clean up and clear out. But what if we include more than just our house in the decluttering process?

Life has a way of throwing curveballs—new jobs, marriage, divorce, babies, retirement… you name it. And just when you think you’ve got your finances figured out, boom! Everything changes.

If your financial situation already feels like a tangled mess of accounts, bills, and random subscriptions you forgot about (looking at you, streaming service #4), a big life change can make things even more stressful. That’s why simplifying your finances before—or during—a transition is one of the best things you can do for your sanity.

Let’s break it down, make it easy, and maybe even have a little fun along the way.

Financial transitions are already a lot to handle. Whether you’re dealing with a new income, adjusting expenses, or signing an overwhelming stack of paperwork, keeping your money simple can make all the difference.

When your finances are streamlined, you:
Stress less – Fewer accounts, fewer headaches.
Make smarter decisions – Clarity = confidence.
Save time – No more digging through statements wondering, What even is this charge?
Adapt more quickly – When life changes, your money moves with you, not against you.

So, how do we declutter the financial mess? Let’s get into it.

Step 1: Clean Up Your Accounts

Ever feel like you have too many bank accounts, credit cards, or investment apps? If managing your money feels like a part-time job, it’s time to consolidate.

Keep it simple: One checking account, one savings account, and only the credit cards you actually use. (Unless you have a specific account set up as a Christmas, vacation, emergency etc. fund)
Close unused accounts: That old savings account with $3.27 in it? Time to say goodbye.

Action Step: Make a list of all your accounts and see which ones you can combine or close. Less is more!

Step 2: Put Your Money on Autopilot

Life is busy. The last thing you need is to remember 15 different bill due dates. Automate your finances and let your money do the work for you.

Set up auto-pay for bills so you never miss a payment.
Automate savings – Pay yourself first before you spend a dime.
Direct deposit wisely – If possible, send a portion straight to savings so you never even miss it.

Action Step: Log into your bank and set up automatic transfers for savings and bills. Future-you will be grateful.

Step 3: Cancel the “Money Drains”

We’ve all signed up for things we don’t use (RIP to that gym membership we swore we’d use). These sneaky subscriptions add up fast.

Go through your bank or credit card statements – Find any recurring charges that don’t serve you.
Cancel what you don’t need – No shame in ditching that online magazine subscription from 2017.

Action Step: Check your subscriptions right now. Bonus points if you cancel at least one today!

Step 4: Simplify Your Budget (No Fancy Spreadsheets Required)

If budgeting sounds as fun as a root canal, you’re doing it wrong. Instead of tracking 57 categories, you can try the 50/30/20 rule:

  • 50% Needs (rent, food, bills)
  • 30% Wants (fun money, entertainment)
  • 20% Savings & Debt Payoff

That’s it. Simple, flexible, and easy to follow.

Action Step: Take a look at your spending and see where you can adjust to fit this method.

Step 5: Get Rid of Debt Faster

Debt is like an unwanted houseguest—it sticks around longer than you’d like and costs you money. Paying off debt faster will free up cash for things you actually want. Choose your weapon…

Tackle high-interest debt first (going for the avalanche).

Payoff the smallest debt first and use the momentum to payoff the rest of your debt. (aka snowballing)

Action Step: Make a list of all your debts and choose one to start paying off. Even small extra payments help!

Step 6: Build an Emergency Fund (Because Life Happens)

Car repairs, medical bills, or oops-I-forgot-about-that expenses pop up when you least expect them. A safety net of 3–6 months of expenses can save you from panic mode.

Start small: Even $500 is better than nothing.
Make it automatic: Set up a tiny weekly transfer into savings—you won’t even notice.

Action Step: If you don’t have an emergency fund, open a savings account today and put in whatever you can then be consistent even if adding only $5 a week.

Final Thoughts: Keep It Simple, Stay in Control

When life throws a big change your way, don’t let your finances add to the chaos. By simplifying now, you’ll be ready for anything—job changes, new adventures, or just a little more peace of mind. And hey, if you need some help getting things in order, I’ve got your back.

Breaking Money Myths: The Truth About Your Finances

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Money is a tricky subject. We all use it, stress about it, and try to make more of it—but let’s be honest, most of us are winging it. And thanks to a mix of well-meaning relatives, the social media guru selling you a course for only $7.99, and that one friend who swears by crypto but still owes you $50, financial myths spread like wildfire.

It’s time to put an end to the nonsense. Let’s bust some of the biggest money myths out there so you can make smarter decisions and keep more cash in your pocket (where it belongs).

Myth #1: “Debt Is the Root of All Evil”

Look, no one wakes up thinking, “Wow, I’d love to be drowning in debt today!” But not all debt is bad. There’s “good debt” and “bad debt”—and knowing the difference is key.

  • Good debt: Student loans, mortgages, business loans—these can help you build a better future (as long as you don’t go overboard).
  • Bad debt: High-interest credit cards, payday loans, and financing a boat you can’t afford just to impress your neighbors.

Debt isn’t the enemy—it’s how you use it that matters. Just don’t let it use you. Keeping it to a minimum is key.

Myth #2: “You Need a Huge Salary to Get Rich”

If that were true, why do so many celebrities go bankrupt? (Looking at you, lottery winners and former NFL players.) The truth is, wealth is built on smart habits, not just a fat paycheck.

  • People with modest incomes can still build wealth by budgeting, saving, and investing wisely.
  • Many millionaires started small and got rich by being disciplined, not by earning six figures from day one.

More money can help, sure—but it won’t fix bad money habits.

Myth #3: “Renting Is Just Throwing Money Away”

Ah, the old “if you rent, you’re just paying your landlord’s mortgage!” argument. While buying a home can be great, it’s not always the best financial move.

  • Renting gives you flexibility—perfect if you move often or don’t want to be tied down by a mortgage.
  • Owning a home comes with hidden costs: repairs, property taxes, and those surprise plumbing disasters that seem to happen at the worst possible moment.

The key? Do what works for you. Not everyone needs to be a homeowner, and that’s okay.

Myth #4: “Investing Is Only for Rich People”

If you think investing is just for Wall Street hotshots, think again. These days, you can start investing with as little as $5.

  • Apps and online platforms make it easy to invest in small amounts.
  • The earlier you start, the more you benefit from the magic of compound interest (a.k.a. free money over time).

Waiting until you’re “rich enough” to invest is like waiting until you’re in shape to go to the gym. Just start.

Myth #5: “Pay Off Your Mortgage ASAP—No Exceptions!”

Sure, being debt-free sounds amazing, but rushing to pay off a low-interest mortgage isn’t always the smartest move.

  • If your mortgage has a low rate, extra money might be better spent investing where you can earn a higher return.
  • Having cash in hand (aka liquidity) is often more useful than locking it all into your home equity.

It’s all about balance. If it makes you sleep better at night, go ahead and pay extra—but don’t assume it’s the only path to financial freedom.

Myth #6: “More Money = No More Money Problems”

Ah, if only. The truth is, making more money won’t magically solve financial issues if you don’t know how to manage it.

  • Plenty of high earners still live paycheck to paycheck because they overspend.
  • Learning how to budget, save, and invest is the real secret to financial security—no matter how much you make.

More money can help, but if your spending habits are out of control, you’ll always feel broke.

Myth #7: “Credit Cards Are Pure Evil”

Credit cards can be a disaster if misused—but they can also be a great financial tool.

  • They help build your credit score (which you’ll need for major purchases like a house or car).
  • Many offer perks like cashback, travel rewards, and fraud protection (cash doesn’t do that!).
  • The trick? Pay off your balance in full each month—no exceptions.

Credit cards aren’t the villain here—bad spending habits are.

Final Thoughts: Take Charge of Your Money (and Ignore the Myths)

The biggest financial mistake you can make? Believing everything you hear. Money myths can hold you back, but breaking free from them puts you in control of your financial future.

The truth is, financial success isn’t about luck, being born rich, or suddenly stumbling upon a million-dollar idea (though that would be nice). It’s about knowledge, discipline, and making smart choices every day.

So, what money myths have you believed? It’s time to rethink them, take charge, and start making your money work for you!

Does Money Really Make You Happy?

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You’ve probably heard the saying, “Money can’t buy happiness.” But let’s be honest—have you ever seen someone frowning on a jet ski? Or looking miserable while sipping an umbrellaed drink on a beach in Bali?

Now, before we all start maxing out our credit cards in pursuit of bliss, let’s get real. Can money actually make us happy, or is it just a really good illusion?

There is a case for money = happiness.

There’s no denying that money makes life easier. It pays the bills, keeps the lights on, and puts food on the table. And let’s not forget about the joy of buying something without having to nervously check your bank balance first. That’s peace of mind right there!

Studies even show that financial security leads to less stress and more life satisfaction. Having enough money means fewer sleepless nights worrying about car repairs, rent, or surprise medical bills (because somehow, even breathing feels expensive these days).

Also, money can buy experiences—like trips, concerts, and spontaneous weekend getaways. And those experiences tend to bring us lasting happiness, especially when shared with people we love. Research suggests that experiences often create stronger and longer-lasting joy than material possessions. That’s because we adapt to “stuff” quickly, but memories of that amazing vacation or that hilarious night out with friends? Those stick with us.

But there’s also a case where money ≠ happiness

Now, here’s where things get tricky. Once your basic needs are met and you’re comfortable, more money doesn’t necessarily mean more happiness. Think about it: billionaire or not, everyone still has bad days, arguments, and moments of self-doubt (yes, even that influencer with the perfect life on Instagram).

Chasing money as the only source of happiness can lead to stress, burnout, and an endless cycle of “just a little more and then I’ll be happy.” In fact, too much focus on money can backfire. The relentless pursuit of wealth can come at a cost—long work hours, high stress, and less time for family, hobbies, or self-care. There’s a reason why some of the richest people in the world still struggle with loneliness, anxiety, or burnout.

There’s also something called the “hedonic treadmill.” This means that as people earn more, they get used to their new financial status and start wanting even more. That fancy car that once made you ecstatic? Give it a year, and it’s just your regular ride. Meanwhile, your happiness levels return to where they started.

Spoiler alert: that finish line keeps moving.

So, What’s the Answer?

Like most things in life, balance is key. Money can absolutely contribute to happiness, but it’s not a magic happiness button. It gives you freedom and options, but the real joy comes from how you use it. Investing in relationships, health, and meaningful experiences? That’s where the good stuff is.

Instead of just chasing wealth, focus on how you can use your money to improve your well-being. Spend on things that genuinely add value to your life, whether that’s learning a new skill, traveling, or supporting causes that matter to you.

So, the next time someone says, “Money can’t buy happiness,” just smile and say, “Maybe not, but it sure can make life a whole lot more comfortable.” And then treat yourself—just because you can.

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Finding Financial Purpose: It’s More Than Just Paying the Bills

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Let’s be real—most of us didn’t grow up dreaming about creating a killer budget or getting excited over a high-yield savings account. If you did, congratulations! You were probably the kid in Monopoly who owned all the railroads and charged rent with a smirk. But for the rest of us, money often feels like a necessary evil—something we need to survive rather than a tool to build the life we truly want.

But what if your finances had a bigger purpose than just covering rent, utilities, and an occasional coffee splurge? (No judgment—lattes are practically a life necessity.) What if you could find a deeper, more meaningful reason behind the way you earn, spend, save, and invest? That, my friend, is your financial purpose.

Think about it—most of life’s big decisions involve money. Want to travel the world? You’ll need a financial plan. Dream of quitting your soul-sucking job to start a passion project? Yep, that takes money too. Even seemingly simple things, like having the freedom to say “yes” to dinner with friends or “no” to yet another tempting online sale, come down to having control over your finances. Your financial purpose gives you a reason to be intentional with your money. It’s what helps you push past the temptation of impulse buys and keep your eye on the bigger picture. Without it, managing your finances can feel like running on a hamster wheel—working hard but not really getting anywhere.

To find your financial purpose, start by getting real about what you want. Forget about what society says you should do with your money. Do you actually want a big house, or would you rather have the freedom to travel? Is early retirement your goal, or do you see yourself working forever because you genuinely love what you do? Your financial purpose starts with what you want out of life.

Look at how you currently spend money. Your bank statements tell a story—what does yours say? Are you spending on things that align with your values, or are you funding Amazon’s next big expansion? Tracking your expenses can help you see if your spending habits are leading you toward or away from your financial purpose.

Think beyond just saving. Saving money is great, but it’s not the end goal. What are you saving for? Whether it’s security, adventure, giving back, or building generational wealth, knowing your “why” will make it easier to stay motivated. Once you have an idea of what you want and why, it’s time to create a plan that aligns with it. This could mean setting up an investment strategy, prioritizing debt payoff, or even just putting a cap on how many subscription services you actually use. Do you really need five different streaming platforms?

Give yourself permission to enjoy money. Finding your financial purpose isn’t about hoarding every dollar or feeling guilty for spending. It’s about using money as a tool to create a life that feels fulfilling. So yes, buy the occasional fancy coffee or take that trip—just do it with intention.

Your financial purpose is about more than numbers—it’s about creating a life that excites you. It’s about making decisions that lead to financial freedom, not just financial survival. So take a step back, figure out what really matters to you, and start putting your money toward a future that actually makes you want to check your bank account. And if that future includes a beachside villa, well, let’s start planning now!

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The Power of Mind Over Money

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If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll never get ahead financially” or “I’m just not good with money,” you might be putting up roadblocks where there could be open doors. Your financial future isn’t set in stone—it’s shaped by how you think and what you do. That’s where a growth mindset comes in.

A growth mindset is the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed with effort, learning, and persistence. When applied to finances, it means realizing that financial literacy, smart money habits, and wealth-building strategies aren’t reserved for the lucky few—they’re skills that anyone can learn.

I know it’s easy to feel overwhelmed when facing financial hurdles. I’ve been there!  But a growth mindset helps you see these moments as stepping stones rather than roadblocks. If you’re struggling with debt, saving, or investing, try shifting your perspective. Instead of thinking, “I’m bad at managing money,” ask yourself, “How can I better manage my money?” Every challenge you face is a chance to build stronger financial skills.

We’ve all made financial missteps—whether it’s overspending, missing a payment, or making a risky investment. Instead of beating yourself up, take a step back and look at the lesson in the experience. Successful people don’t avoid mistakes; they learn from them. Each setback is an opportunity to refine your approach and make better decisions moving forward.

One simple word can change your entire financial outlook: yet. If you catch yourself saying, “I don’t understand investing” or “I can’t save money,” add yet to the end of that sentence. It turns a dead-end statement into an open path. Acknowledging that financial success is a journey keeps you motivated and patient with yourself.

It’s tempting to stick with what feels easy, but real financial progress comes from learning and stepping outside your comfort zone. Read books, listen to podcasts, take a financial course, or talk to a coach. The more you expose yourself to new financial concepts, the more confident and capable you’ll become. Knowledge is power—and in this case, it’s the power to take control of your financial future.

A growth mindset isn’t just about tackling big challenges; it’s also about recognizing progress. Did you save an extra $50 this month? That’s a win! Did you finally create a budget? Another win! Acknowledging and celebrating these small victories keeps you motivated and reinforces your belief that financial success is possible.

Changing the way you think about money starts with small steps. Reframe negative thoughts, seek out financial education, surround yourself with people who inspire you, and take consistent action. Whether it’s budgeting, saving, or investing, the key is to keep going.

By creating a growth mindset, you open the door to endless financial possibilities. Your starting point doesn’t define you—your willingness to learn, adapt, and persist does. Shift your mindset, take action, and watch your financial future transform!

How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy

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Let’s be real: managing finances can feel like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without the instructions—except instead of ending up with a wobbly bookshelf, you’re left wondering where all your money went. And more often than not, the culprit isn’t your boss for not giving you that raise or having a loan not approved by a financial institution. It’s you. Yes, you. Your decisions, habits, and that one voice in your head whispering, “Treat yourself,” are often the biggest hurdles standing between you and financial peace of mind.

Here’s a familiar story, but this time told in its entirety. Let me introduce you to Rachel. Rachel’s a 28-year-old with a decent-paying job and dreams of owning her own home someday. But Rachel has a little problem: she loves her morning coffee runs. Now, Rachel isn’t sipping your standard $2 cup of joe. Nope, she’s all about the venti caramel-whipped-foam-extra-shot-latte…that costs $7 a pop….minimum.

It’s harmless, right? Just $7. But here’s the thing: Rachel doesn’t just stop at coffee. There’s also the $12 avocado toast she grabs for breakfast a few times a week and the $25 takeout she gets for lunch because “packing lunch is so boring.” Multiply this routine over the course of a month, and Rachel’s suddenly $1,260 lighter in her wallet.

Now, let’s pause. Did Rachel’s latte-buying habit singlehandedly ruin her financial life? Not really. But this little daily indulgence, multiplied by her other “innocent” spending habits, meant Rachel wasn’t saving much. And every time she sat down to budget, she’d sigh and say, “Ugh, I don’t know why I’m always broke!”

Sound familiar?

We all have a little “Rachel” in us. Maybe your Achilles heel isn’t fancy coffee—it’s impulse online shopping (hello, late-night Amazon purchases), splurging on the newest gadgets, or refusing to say no to that monthly subscription box you don’t even open anymore. Whatever it is, it’s these small, seemingly harmless choices that can snowball into major financial stress.

Here’s the deal: the problem isn’t spending money. It’s spending money mindlessly. We sabotage ourselves by ignoring the big picture, brushing off small expenses, or avoiding honest conversations about our financial habits.

So why Do We Do This to Ourselves?

Money isn’t just numbers on a spreadsheet—it’s emotional. We spend when we’re stressed, bored, or trying to reward ourselves. And let’s face it: FOMO (fear of missing out) is real. We’d rather swipe our cards to keep up with the group dinner or splurge on a trendy item than face the (false) shame of saying, “I can’t afford it.”

But the truth is that financial self-sabotage is often rooted in avoiding discomfort. We’d rather indulge in short-term gratification than confront long-term responsibility. And honestly? It’s human.

Ready to stop being your own worst enemy? It’s easier than you think—with a little intention

  1. Track Every Penny (Yes, Every Penny): Think of tracking your expenses like investigating a mystery—where is your money sneaking off to? You might discover it’s those sneaky $3 app subscriptions or, like Rachel, an innocent coffee habit. Apps like Every Dollar, Mint or YNAB (You Need A Budget) can help turn this into a game.
  2. Create a “Fun Budget”: No, you don’t need to give up all your guilty pleasures. Budget a set amount for your indulgences—whether it’s coffee, streaming services, or treating yourself to something nice. When the fun fund runs out, that’s it for the month.
  3. Embrace the Art of “No”: Say no to impulse buys, unnecessary subscriptions, and (politely) those fancy dinners with friends if your budget doesn’t allow it. You can always suggest a potluck instead. Your future self will thank you.
  4. Focus on Your Goals: Get clear about what you’re working toward—a down payment, a vacation, or finally paying off that pesky credit card. Every time you’re tempted to make an unplanned purchase, remind yourself of the bigger picture.
  5. Laugh at Your Mistakes: So, you bought a yoga mat for $80 that you never used? Laugh about it, learn from it, and move on. Financial mistakes happen to everyone. What matters is how you bounce back.

After a bit of soul-searching (and a budgeting app), Rachel started making some changes. She swapped her daily latte for home-brewed coffee (with caramel syrup she bought for $5), packed her lunch most days, and started saving $700 a month. Six months later, she had a healthy emergency fund and was finally on track toward her dream of owning a home.

You, too, can write your own happy ending. Start small, stay consistent, and remember: you’re not alone in this. We’ve all been our own worst enemies at some point. The trick is to recognize it, laugh about it, and start treating your finances with the care they deserve.

And who knows? Maybe one day, you’ll look back and laugh about the time you spent $200 on a “limited-edition” air fryer.

Rewriting Your Money Story: Letting Go of Financial Fear

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It’s no secret that our past experiences shape who we are. They influence how we view the world, the choices we make, and how we interact with money. While some lessons from the past can empower us, others can weigh us down, leaving us stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I can’t do this,” or “I’ll never be able to afford that,” even though you’re unhappy with your financial situation, you’re not alone. So many of us feel this way, and often, it’s because of the stories we carry from our past.

Think back to when you were a kid. What was money like in your household? Did your family worry about bills, argue over spending, or live paycheck to paycheck? Maybe you grew up hearing things like, “Money doesn’t grow on trees” or “We can’t afford that.” Or perhaps you watched someone close to you make risky financial decisions that didn’t end well. These early experiences stick with us, shaping how we think about money even decades later. It’s no wonder we sometimes hesitate to take risks or make changes—those old narratives can feel like they’re carved in stone.

Change is scary. Even when your financial situation isn’t great, the idea of doing something different can feel overwhelming. It’s like standing on the edge of a pool, knowing the water will be cold but not quite able to make the jump. What if you budget and fail? What if you invest and lose money? What if things get worse instead of better? These fears are real, and they can keep you stuck in the same cycle, even when you know deep down that something needs to change.

On top of that, there’s the weight of past mistakes. Maybe you’ve had credit card debt spiral out of control, or you took out a loan you couldn’t repay. Maybe you’ve tried to save or invest before, but it didn’t go as planned. The shame from these experiences can be suffocating, making it hard to believe you’re capable of doing things differently. But here’s the thing: mistakes don’t define you. They’re just stepping stones, opportunities to learn and grow, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now.

So, how do you move forward when your past feels like a ball and chain? Start by getting honest with yourself. Take a moment to think about where your beliefs about money come from. Were they handed down by your parents? Shaped by your own experiences? Understanding these roots can be eye-opening and give you the clarity you need to start breaking free.

Knowledge is another powerful tool. A lot of fear comes from not knowing where to start or feeling like finances are too complicated. But the truth is, you don’t have to be an expert to take control of your money. Start small. Watch videos, read articles, or talk to someone who knows the ropes. Every bit of knowledge you gain is a step toward confidence.

And remember, change doesn’t have to happen all at once. You don’t need to go from zero savings to fully funding your retirement overnight. Pick one thing—maybe it’s cutting back on unnecessary expenses or setting aside $10 a week—and stick with it. Each small win will build momentum, making the next step feel a little less daunting.

If you’re feeling stuck, don’t be afraid to lean on others. Whether it’s a financial coach, a friend who’s good with money, or an online community, having support can make a world of difference. You don’t have to go it alone.

Most importantly, be kind to yourself. It’s easy to beat yourself up over where you are financially, but self-criticism rarely helps. Instead, focus on progress, not perfection. Celebrate the steps you’re taking, no matter how small they might seem.

Your past might have shaped how you think about money, but it doesn’t have to control your future. With some reflection, patience, and the courage to take those first small steps, you can create a new story for yourself—one where you’re in charge of your financial future and fear no longer holds you back.

If you’re ready to take that step, schedule an insight session with me and set your financial future on the right path. schedule here

Know Your ‘Why’: The Secret to Financial Peace

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What drives you? Why do you get up each day and work as hard as you do? And when it comes to your financial goals, have you ever stopped to ask yourself why?

If your answer is “I want to be rich” or “I want to retire early,” you’re not alone. But let’s dig a little deeper. What does being rich actually mean to you? What does early retirement look like in your life? If you’re unsure, you may be chasing a dream that feels more like an obligation than a vision worth fighting for.


Here’s the truth: Money isn’t the end goal. It’s the means to live the life you want, to create security, opportunities, and freedom for yourself and those you care about. But to use money as a tool, you need to first define what you’re building.

Do you want to:

  • Buy your dream home by the lake?
  • Take a month-long vacation with your family every year?
  • Start a business that aligns with your passion?
  • Retire early so you can travel or volunteer more?

Each of these dreams carries emotion, purpose, and clarity. That’s the power of knowing your “why.” It makes your goals feel personal, not generic, and gives you the motivation to stick to the plan when the going gets tough.


When you have a clear purpose behind your financial goals, it:

  1. Keeps You Focused: Life throws curveballs. When you’re tempted to splurge on something unnecessary or feel discouraged, your “why” reminds you of the bigger picture.
  2. Makes Sacrifices Easier: Saving and investing require discipline. When you tie your financial habits to a meaningful purpose, it’s easier to say no to fleeting temptations and yes to long-term rewards.
  3. Builds Resilience: Challenges are inevitable. But if your goal is deeply tied to something you care about, you’ll find the strength to overcome setbacks and keep moving forward.
  4. Creates Fulfillment: Achieving financial goals rooted in purpose feels more rewarding than hitting arbitrary milestones. You’re not just crossing off a checklist—you’re building the life you’ve always dreamed of.


Don’t worry if your “why” shifts over time—that’s natural. The dreams you have in your 30s might differ from those in your 50s. The key is to consistently evaluate and realign your goals with what truly matters to you.

Take a moment to reflect on your current financial goals. Why do they matter to you? If they don’t light a fire in your soul, it might be time to redefine them.

Start with These Steps

  1. Visualize your dream life. What does it look like? Who’s with you? What are you doing?
  2. Write down your top three financial goals. For each, ask yourself why it’s important.
  3. Share your goals with someone you trust. Talking them through can bring clarity and accountability.
  4. Revisit your goals regularly to ensure they still align with your evolving vision.


Your financial goals should feel like a roadmap to a life filled with purpose, passion, and peace of mind—not just numbers in a bank account. When you know your “why,” you transform your financial journey into a meaningful adventure.

So, what’s your why? And how will it shape your financial future?

If you’re ready to uncover the purpose behind your goals and create a plan that works for you, I’m here to help. Let’s design a roadmap that turns your dreams into reality.