What Has Your Attention Has Your Money

What if the thing distracting you from your financial goals isn’t your lack of money, but your lack of attention?

That question hit me differently this past week.

I decided to fast from social media.

Not just cut back. Not “I’ll only check it for a few minutes.” I stepped away from it completely.

And I’ll be honest, it was interesting.

At first, I kept reaching for my phone out of habit. I’d have a few minutes of downtime and instinctively want to check Facebook or see what was happening online.

Then I’d remember, “Oh yeah. I’m fasting from social media.”

And eventually, something happened.

I started noticing how much mental space social media had been taking up.

It wasn’t just the physical act of picking up my phone. It was the mental distraction that came with it.

The opinions. The comparison. The endless stream of information.

The things I saw that made me think, “I should be doing that.”

The things that made me wonder what other people were doing.

The constant noise.

When I removed social media, I wasn’t just removing something from my hands.

I was removing something from my mind.

And that got me thinking about money.

Because how often do we do the exact opposite with our finances?

We allow distractions to constantly pull our attention away from what matters most.

And then we wonder why we’re not making progress.

Distraction Can Be Expensive

Let’s be honest.

How many times have you opened your phone to do something important and 30 minutes later you’re watching a video of somebody organizing their refrigerator?

Don’t tell me I’m the only one.

And those distractions aren’t always harmless.

Maybe you’re scrolling and see someone showing off their new car. Suddenly your perfectly good car doesn’t seem so good anymore.

You see someone’s beautiful vacation. Now your own vacation feels boring.

Someone posts pictures of their beautifully decorated home. Suddenly you’re looking around your house wondering why your couch has been there since the Bush administration.

And then comes the temptation to spend.

Maybe you don’t even realize you’re comparing.

But comparison can make us spend money on a life we only think we want.

That’s one of the sneaky ways distraction affects our finances.

Sometimes We Spend Because We’re Distracted

Think about the last time you made an impulse purchase.

Were you excited about the purchase? Or were you bored? Stressed? Lonely? Celebrating? Trying to make yourself feel better?

Sometimes we’re not really buying the thing.

We’re buying the feeling we think the thing will give us.

That’s why “just make a budget” doesn’t always solve the problem.

A budget can tell you where your money is going.

But sometimes we have to dig deeper and ask why we’re spending it.

Because if we’re using spending to cope with emotions, boredom, comparison, or stress, the problem isn’t simply mathematical.

It’s behavioral and/or emotional.

And Then There’s the Other Kind of Distraction

Distraction doesn’t always mean spending money.

Sometimes it means avoiding our money.

You know you need to look at your bank account or check your credit card balance.

You know you need to figure out where your money is going.

You know you need to deal with that credit card.

You know you should probably start saving for that thing you’ve been talking about for three years.

But instead, you do something else.

You check your phone.

You clean the house.

You answer emails.

You binge-watch something.

You convince yourself you’ll deal with it tomorrow.

And tomorrow comes.

Then next week.

Then next month.

And suddenly you’re wondering why your financial situation hasn’t changed.

But we all know that ignoring something doesn’t make it go away. (Hello dishes in the sink).

Sometimes we don’t need another financial app. We need to stop avoiding our reality.

What Has Your Attention?

There’s a verse in Matthew that says, “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

I’ve always loved that verse, but this week I started thinking about it from a slightly different perspective.

What has my attention?

Because what has our attention often influences where our money goes.

If comparison has our attention, our money may follow.

If convenience has our attention, our money may follow.

If keeping up with other people has our attention, our money may follow.

If fear has our attention, our money may follow.

If work has our attention, our money may follow.

And if we’re constantly distracted, our money may simply follow whatever grabs our attention next.

That’s a scary thought because our attention is limited. We only have so much of it.

And just like we can’t spend the same dollar twice, we can’t give our full attention to everything.

Something is always going to get less of it.

So what are you choosing?

My Social Media Fast Taught Me Something About Money

One of the biggest things I noticed this past week was how much quieter my mind became.

Without the constant input, I had more room to think. More room to pray. More room to focus.

More room to do things that actually mattered to me, and it made me wonder:

What would happen if we did the same thing with our finances?

What if we removed some of the noise?

What if we stopped looking at everyone else’s lives?

What if we stopped buying things simply because someone else has them?

What if we stopped allowing advertisements to tell us what we need?

What if we stopped letting our emotions make every financial decision?

What if we simply became more intentional?

Maybe financial clarity isn’t always about adding something.

Maybe sometimes it’s about removing something.

Removing the distraction. Removing the comparison. Removing the unnecessary spending.

Removing the noise.

God Doesn’t Need Us Distracted

I also think there’s something spiritual about this.

We live in a world that constantly tells us to want more.

More money.

More stuff.

More success.

More followers.

More recognition.

More experiences.

More.

More.

More.

And sometimes we get so busy chasing “more” that we miss what we already have.

We miss the blessings sitting right in front of us.

We miss the quiet moments.

We miss our families.

We miss our purpose.

We miss God’s voice because our lives are so full of noise that we don’t have much room left to listen.

My social media fast reminded me that sometimes I don’t need more information.

I need more intention.

I need more quiet.

I need more time with God.

And honestly, I probably need to put my phone down more often.

Because apparently, my phone and I have a very healthy relationship…

If by healthy, you mean I check on it approximately 47 times a day.

So What Has Your Attention?

I want you to think about this for a minute.

What has been getting most of your attention lately?

Your financial goals?

Or everyone else’s lives?

Your savings?

Or online shopping?

Your future?

Or today’s wants?

Your financial problems?

Or everything you can find to distract yourself from them?

Your purpose?

Or the constant noise around you?

And here’s the bigger question:

Is what has your attention actually helping you get where you want to go?

Because your money is going somewhere.

Your time is going somewhere.

Your energy is going somewhere.

Your attention is going somewhere.

The question is whether you’re intentionally directing those things or simply allowing the loudest thing in the room to take them.

My week without social media didn’t solve every problem in my life.

But it reminded me of something important:

Sometimes we don’t need to add more to our lives. Sometimes we need to remove the things that are keeping us from paying attention to what matters.

And that applies to our money too.

Maybe before you make another budget, open another savings account, or tell yourself you just need to make more money, take a step back.

Get quiet.

Ask God for wisdom.

Pay attention.

Look honestly at where your money is going and why.

And then ask yourself one simple question:

“Is my money helping me move toward the life I want, or am I allowing my distractions to decide where it goes?”

Because sometimes the financial breakthrough we’re looking for isn’t found in making more.

Sometimes it’s found in paying attention to what we already have.

The Idolization of Busyness

How busy are you? We have gotten so used to being busy in today’s world that we often don’t recognize how thinly we are spread until we break.

This cultural trend often values constant activity and a packed schedule, equating busyness with productivity and importance.

I’m part of an accountability group that meets once a week. One member had to take the meeting in their car this week as they were busy getting things done. We started talking about how we’ve gone to audiobooks to listen to while we workout (self-care?) or how there are times we listen to coursework or meeting notes while showering, just to fit it in.

That’s what most of us have come to. Just trying to fit it all in, in the expectation of having it all.

Societal expectations and cultural norms can play a significant role in promoting the idea that being busy is a sign of hard work, dedication, and success.

Society tends to validate and reward individuals who appear busy. The idea that someone is in demand and has a packed schedule can contribute to a positive social image, leading to admiration and validation from others. How many times have you heard the phrase, “if you want something done, give it to a busy person.”

Some workplaces encourage a culture of overworking, where employees feel pressured to put in long hours to demonstrate commitment and dedication to their jobs. There is often pressure to achieve success, and busyness is seen as a means to that end. People may believe that staying constantly busy will help them climb the ladder of success or achieve their goals faster. But at what cost?

Advancements in technology have made it easier for people to be constantly connected and accessible. This constant connectivity can create an expectation for individuals to be responsive and engaged at all times. For some individuals, busyness provides a sense of validation and self-worth. Being constantly busy may be linked to one’s identity and contribute to a feeling of importance or significance.

And then there is FOMO. The fear of missing out on opportunities or experiences can drive people to stay busy. The belief that every moment needs to be filled with activities can be rooted in a fear that not being busy might result in missed opportunities or social exclusion. This fear can be fueled by social media, where people often share highlights of their busy lives.

When was the last time you picked up a book to read for pleasure or saw a movie with your phone actually turned off? When was the last time you were excited about life and what you’re doing with it and not just pushing through to get it done and on to the next thing? Maybe it’s time to be more interested in what’s important to you.

It’s essential to recognize that constant busyness does not necessarily equate to effectiveness or happiness. It’s crucial to find a balance and prioritize activities that truly align with your values and well-being. It’s important to note that while busyness can be a part of a fulfilling and successful life, it’s equally important to prioritize well-being, balance, and self-care. Constant busyness can lead to burnout and negatively impact mental and physical health. It’s essential to question the cultural narrative that values busyness and find a balance that promotes both productivity and overall well-being.