The Addiction No One Talks About

I saw this quote recently, and I swear it leapt off the screen and side-eyed me:
“If you don’t think you’re addicted to something, try fasting from it.”

Well… that felt a little personal.

Because my first thought was, Oh, I could give up anything if I had to.
And then I imagined going a week without coffee, Amazon, or that little thrill I get when I see “Your order has shipped.”
Suddenly, I realized, yeah, maybe I am a little addicted.

Financial Fasting Hits Different

Now, before you think I’m suggesting a wilderness fast with no water and locusts, calm down. I’m talking about a financial fast; no unnecessary spending for a set time.

No takeout. No “just one quick Target run.” No late-night scrolling on Etsy, convincing yourself you need another candle that smells like “Peaceful Rainforest Serenity.”

If you want to know what’s got a grip on you, try saying no to it for seven days.
The first day, you’ll feel strong. Day two, you’ll justify everything. By day three, you’ll be eyeing your debit card like it’s the last donut in the box.

The moment you tell yourself no, you start to see what’s really driving the yes. But that’s where the learning happens.

What God Showed Me

When I went through my divorce, I didn’t just lose a marriage; I lost my sense of safety. And without realizing it, I tried to buy that feeling back. New clothes, dinners out, little treats “to cheer myself up.”

And I remember God nudging me one day: “You’re trying to fill an emotional hole with financial band-aids.”

Ouch again.

Because He was right. What I really needed was peace. Not another Amazon box on my porch.

Money wasn’t my problem. My need for comfort was.
And only God could really meet that need.

The Real Addiction

It’s not always the spending we’re hooked on.
It’s the feeling it gives us. The comfort, control, or distraction.
And when those feelings fade, we’re right back where we started, wallet lighter and heart still hungry.

That’s why fasting, financial or otherwise, can be such a powerful reset. It’s not about deprivation. It’s about revelation.

When we stop feeding the habit, we start hearing from God in the quiet.
And He has this funny way of showing us what we’ve been running from… and what we actually need.

Let’s Dig a Little Deeper

Here’s where the life coach in me steps in:
If you find yourself overspending, ask what need you’re really trying to meet.

Are you buying to feel seen?
To escape stress?
To reward yourself because no one else is clapping for your effort?
Or maybe, you’re trying to create a sense of control in a life that feels unpredictable.

When you can name the feeling behind the behavior, you start to break the pattern.
And when you bring that awareness to God, He can actually heal the part of you that’s reaching for something temporary to soothe something deeper.

Try It

Pick one thing to fast from financially. It might be DoorDash, Amazon, Starbucks, or online browsing when you’re bored.

Every time the urge hits, stop and ask:

  • What am I feeling right now?
  • What am I hoping this purchase will fix?
  • Is there another way I can meet that need, spiritually, emotionally, or practically?

Then invite God into that space.
Pray. Take a walk. Journal. Call a friend.
You’ll start to see what’s been running your money (and maybe your peace) without your permission.

Sometimes the problem isn’t that we don’t have enough money.
It’s that we’re spending to fill a void only God and a little self-honesty can heal.

And when you fast from what controls you, you finally make room for what frees you.

And hey, if you make it all seven days without an Amazon relapse, reward yourself with… well, prayer. Or maybe a walk. But not another candle, okay? (And no—adding just one thing to your Amazon cart “for later” doesn’t count as fasting. Nice try.)

Your First Paycheck Is Coming. Let’s Make Sure It Stays

Graduation caps have been tossed, your diploma is somewhere under a pile of moving boxes, and you’ve finally figured out how to make ramen taste like a real meal. Congratulations! You’re officially a recent graduate and now, welcome to adulthood, where you’ll quickly discover that your student loan servicer knows more about you than your grandma does.

As you prepare to dive into the job market or just landed your first “real” job, there’s one person you might want to bring into your corner, no, not your cousin who’s “really into crypto” or your roommate who swears they’re going to retire off of TikTok earnings. We’re talking about a financial coach.

Now, you might be thinking, “Why would I hire a financial coach? I don’t even have any finances yet. I have vibes and debt.” Fair point. But that’s exactly why now is the perfect time.

A financial coach isn’t just someone who tells you to stop buying $6 lattes (though they might gently suggest a reusable mug and a better budgeting app). They’re more like your personal money GPS helping you avoid the financial potholes you can’t even see yet. Most people only think about financial guidance once things are already on fire. Collections notices, overdraft fees, or the haunting realization that they accidentally blew their entire paycheck on concert tickets and Uber Eats. A financial coach helps you get ahead of those moments and build a roadmap for your money that doesn’t rely on hope and impulse.

Imagine starting your financial life with intention instead of regret. Knowing how to set up a budget that doesn’t make you feel like you’re grounded. Understanding how to tackle student loans without crying. Learning how to save for future-you—yes, the one who wants to travel, buy a house, or finally replace that cracked iPhone screen.

Plus, working with a coach can help you build confidence. You’ll finally stop nodding blankly when someone says “Roth IRA” and start using terms like “emergency fund” and “compound interest” without breaking into a cold sweat. It’s like having a financial translator—someone who helps you make sense of adult money things without making you feel like you failed Econ 101.

And the truth is, building good habits early is like investing in your future self. Think of your money like a plant: if you water it now and give it the right conditions, it grows. If you wait too long, it gets droopy, weird, and you end up frantically Googling “how to revive dead succulents” except it’s your credit score.

Sure, you could try to figure it all out on your own. There’s YouTube, TikTok, Reddit threads with advice from anonymous users named “StonkMaster420.” But if you want tailored guidance, real support, and someone who doesn’t vanish when the economy wobbles, a financial coach is worth it. They’ll help you build a plan you can stick to even if you’re still living with roommates and your “retirement plan” is just “not working forever.”

So, before you splurge on celebratory sushi or finance a couch you can’t afford, consider this: hiring a financial coach as a recent grad doesn’t mean you’ve got it all together. It means you’re smart enough to want to have it together. And that, my friend, is the kind of energy your bank account will thank you for—long after the ramen days are behind you.

*Whether you just said “I do” or just tossed your graduation cap, this summer is the perfect time to take control of your finances and set yourself up for long-term success.

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