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Your Money Habits Are Older Than You Think

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Last week we talked about how money isn’t just math, it’s emotional.

This week, we go a layer deeper.

Those emotions around money?
Most of them were formed before you ever had a bank account, a job, or a credit score.

Your money habits are older than your financial knowledge.
And they were shaped when you were little and just trying to make sense of the world.

You Learned About Money Before You Learned Multiplication

Nobody sat you down at age seven and said,
“Today we will form your lifelong beliefs about spending, saving, and self-worth.”

And yet… that’s exactly what happened.

You learned by watching how adults talked about bills. Whether money conversations sounded calm or tense. If asking for things felt safe or shameful. Whether money meant freedom… or fear.

Kids are meaning-making machines.
You didn’t just see what was happening — you decided what it meant.

And those beliefs didn’t stay in childhood.
They quietly followed you into adulthood and now they’re hanging out in your checking account.

Some of Your “Money Problems” Are Old Survival Skills

Here’s where it gets interesting.

A lot of the habits you’re frustrated with today started as ways to feel safe, loved, or in control when you were younger.

Overspending might be: “Buying things makes me feel better when life feels shaky.”

Under-earning might have roots in: “If I don’t outshine people, I won’t make anyone uncomfortable.”

Avoiding bills could trace back to: “Money talk leads to conflict, so it’s safer to ignore it.”

None of those started because you’re irresponsible. They came from emotional learning.

Your nervous system learned what money felt like long before you understood how money worked.

“I’m Bad With Money” Is Usually a Story, Not a Fact

One of the most damaging money beliefs people carry is this:

“I’m just bad with money.”

That belief rarely starts with an adult financial mistake.
It usually starts with a moment when you felt small, embarrassed, or powerless around money.

Maybe you grew up hearing “we can’t afford that” said with stress or anger and you felt guilty for needing something. Maybe you watched someone else control all the money. Or you saw money cause arguments, silence, or distance.

So your brain built a story:

“Money is stressful.”
“Money causes problems.”
“I shouldn’t want too much.”
“I don’t know how to handle money.”

And that story can run your financial life for decades, quietly influencing choices you think are purely logical.

Adult You Is Trying to Budget…

While Inner Kid You Is Trying to Feel Safe.

This is why knowing what to do doesn’t always mean you’ll do it.

You can understand that you should spend less, save more, pay down debt, stick to a plan, and still feel resistance you can’t explain.

Because part of you isn’t making decisions from a calculator.
It’s making decisions from old emotional programming.

When your bank balance drops, you may not just see a number.
You might feel the same fear you felt hearing adults whisper about money in the kitchen.

When you treat yourself to something nice, you may not just feel enjoyment.
You might also feel guilt that traces back to being told “that’s too expensive”.

The situation is current, but the emotional reaction might be decades old.

Tiny Bit of Truth That Might Sting (In a Good Way)

Some people don’t have a spending problem.

They have a comfort problem.
Or a self-worth problem.
Or a fear-of-conflict problem.

Money just ends up being the place where all that shows up.

You’re not just managing dollars. You’re navigating emotions that formed long before you had adult responsibilities.

And here’s the beautiful part — God isn’t surprised by any of this.
He sees the whole story. The little-kid moments. The adult struggles. The parts you feel embarrassed about.

There’s grace in this process. You’re learning, not failing.

How to Start Rewriting Your Money Story

You don’t need to dig up every childhood memory. This isn’t a therapy session on your couch with dramatic music playing.

But a little awareness goes a long way.

Try this:

Ask: “What did money feel like growing up?”

Was it tense? Scarce? Secretive? Generous? Chaotic? Calm?

Notice your emotional reactions now

When do you feel the most stress around money?
Spending? Checking your balance? Talking about finances?

That reaction may be connected to an old emotional imprint.

Separate past from present

You’re not that kid anymore.
You have more choices, more knowledge, and more power than you did back then.

You can invite God into this area too, not just for provision, but for healing the fear, shame, or pressure attached to money.

Your financial life today doesn’t have to follow emotional rules written years ago.

This Is Where Change Gets Real

Last week, we said money is emotional.

This week, we name where many of those emotions were born.

Not to blame the past. Not to stay stuck in it. But to understand yourself with more compassion and less shame. Because when you realize, “Oh… this isn’t just about money,” you finally get space to respond differently.

And that’s where new habits and a new financial story begin.

If this stirred something up for you, that’s a good sign. Awareness is the first step toward change that actually sticks. So sit with it a bit. Pray about it. Journal on it. Pay attention to your reactions this week. When you understand the emotional roots, the habits finally start to make sense, and that changes how you move forward.

Why Your Money Reset Keeps Resetting

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You want to stop living paycheck to paycheck.

You want to stop spending like your debit card is sponsored by Target.
You want to open your bank app without preparing for emotional impact.

You’ve tried the things.
The budgets. The cash envelopes. The “no-spend weekend.” The new spreadsheet. The cute app with the motivational quotes.

And for a little while… it works.

Then life shows up.
Groceries cost more. The car makes a noise. Someone has a birthday. You’re tired. You deserve a treat. The budget quietly fades into the background like a gym membership in February.

And now you’re back in the same place, wondering, “Why can’t I make this stick?”

Let’s talk about that.

The Emotional Side Nobody Warned You About

We don’t just spend money.
We spend for comfort.
We spend for stress relief.
We spend in celebration.
We spend to escape

Money is tied to emotions, whether we admit it or not.

You don’t buy coffee because you’re thirsty.
You buy it because you’re looking to perk up.

You don’t use Amazon because you need something.
You use it because it’s effortless.

And you’re left wondering why the new budget isn’t working.

Scripture reminds us:

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23

Your spending is showing you what your heart is craving.

Why Simple Changes Don’t Stick

Here’s the part nobody loves to hear:
Small changes fail when they’re sitting on top of big patterns.

You change the budget…
…but keep the same habits.

You cut subscriptions…
…but keep the same stress responses.

You track expenses…
…but keep the same money story.

A few common reasons your resets keep resetting:

1. You’re treating money like math, not behavior.

Money looks like numbers, but it moves like emotions.

2. You’re fixing tools, not identity.

You’re saying, “I need a better system,” instead of, “I need a new relationship with money.”

3. You’re trying to restrict instead of redirect.

Restriction feels like punishment. Redirection feels like power.

4. You’re aiming for perfection instead of progress.

One mistake and the whole plan feels ruined, so you quit.

5. You’re trying to build discipline without building peace.

Discipline without peace always burns out.

The Quiet Frustration Nobody Talks About

You’ve carried hope into every new plan.
And you’ve carried disappointment out of most of them.

You’re tired of starting over.

You’re tired of hoping this plan will be different.

You’re tired of watching your future goals get eaten by present stress.

Scripture speaks straight to that weariness:

“Let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” — Galatians 6:9

If willpower alone worked, patterns wouldn’t repeat and we wouldn’t need second chances.

Your money habits don’t need another promise you can’t keep.

They need more honesty and better support.

The Spiritual Layer We Skip Too Often

God doesn’t want you stressed, ashamed, or stuck.

“For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.” — 1 Corinthians 14:33

Peace doesn’t mean being rich.
Peace means steady.
Peace means clear.
Peace means you stop expecting everything to fall apart.

And Proverbs reminds us:

“The plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance.” — Proverbs 21:5

Not overnight abundance.
Not lottery abundance.
Steady, built, grown abundance.

The Shift That Changes Everything

Stop asking:
“How do I fix my spending?”

Start asking:
“How do I build a life I don’t need to escape from with spending?”

That question changes everything.

Because now money isn’t just about stopping.
It’s about building.

Where This Leaves You

You can stop living paycheck to paycheck.
Not by trying harder.
But by looking deeper and building differently.

And when you stumble, because you will, remember:

“The righteous may fall seven times, but they rise again.” — Proverbs 24:16

Not because they’re perfect.
Because they don’t quit.

Show Me Your Bank Account, and I’ll Show You Your Priorities

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We all have a list in our heads.

Family. Faith. Freedom. Health. Peace. Security. Growth. Legacy.

If I asked you what matters most to you, you wouldn’t hesitate. You’d answer with confidence from the heart. And I would believe you.

But if you slid your bank statement across the table…
I’d learn something else too.

Not because you’re lying.

But because money keeps a record of what we actually choose.

Your bank account isn’t trying to teach you a lesson.
It simply tells the truth.

And sometimes, that truth is uncomfortable.

The Gap Between Values and Behavior

Most people don’t struggle with values.
They struggle with alignment.

We say we value:

  • Financial peace, but live paycheck to paycheck..
  • Family time, but buy convenience instead.
  • Freedom, yet finance everything.
  • Health, but ignore our own care.
  • Growth, but we rarely invest in learning or getting help.

Again, this isn’t about shame.
It’s about awareness.

Because money follows behavior.
And behavior follows habits.
And habits often operate without permission from our values.

Your bank account is a mirror.

It reflects what felt urgent.
What felt comforting.
What felt necessary in the moment.

And what felt easier than sitting with discomfort.

Spending Is Emotional, Not Logical

We like to pretend we are rational with money.

We are not.

We spend when we are tired.
We spend when we are bored.
We spend when we are stressed.
We spend when we are trying to feel something.

Sometimes we spend to celebrate.
Sometimes we spend to numb.
Sometimes we spend to belong.
Sometimes we spend to escape.

Your bank statement doesn’t just show transactions.
It shows emotional patterns.

It shows where you run for relief.
It shows what makes you feel safe.
It shows what you use to cope.

And once you see that, you can’t unsee it.

The Story Money Is Telling About You

Imagine your bank account could talk.

It might say:

“I value convenience more than rest.”
“I value comfort more than margin.”
“I value appearances more than peace.”
“I value quick relief more than long-term stability.”
“I value survival over strategy.”

Or it might say:

“I value preparation.”
“I value choice.”
“I value future me.”
“I value flexibility.”
“I value alignment.”

Neither story makes you a good or bad person.

But one story gives you options.
The other quietly removes them.

Priorities Aren’t What You Claim — They’re What You Fund

If something truly matters to you, it shows up in one of three places:

  1. Your calendar
  2. Your energy
  3. Your money

When all three agree, life feels grounded.

When they don’t, life feels heavy.

You can say you want financial freedom, but if every dollar is assigned to comfort, distraction, and reaction, freedom stays theoretical.

You can say you want peace, but if your spending creates pressure, peace stays distant.

You can say you want growth, but if nothing is invested in learning, growth becomes wishful thinking.

This isn’t about cutting joy.

It’s about deciding what kind of joy you want later.

Why This Feels Personal

Money touches everything:

  • How you sleep
  • How you argue
  • How you dream
  • How you choose
  • How you feel about yourself

That’s why conversations about money often feel like conversations about worth, security, control, and identity.

You aren’t just managing numbers.

You are managing your relationship with safety.

So when I say, “Show me your bank account,” what I’m really saying is:

Show me what you protect.
Show me what you fear.
Show me what you trust.
Show me what you avoid.
Show me what you believe about yourself.

The Quiet Power of Alignment

Alignment doesn’t require perfection.

It requires honesty.

Alignment is when your money begins to reflect who you are becoming, not just who you have been.

It’s when you pause before spending and ask,
“Does this support the life I say I want?”

It’s when you stop treating future-you like a stranger.

It’s when your values stop living only in words and start living in the numbers.

Alignment is peaceful.

Even when the numbers are small.

Even when progress is slow.

Because direction matters more than speed.

The Hardest Truth

If your bank account doesn’t match your values, it doesn’t mean you lack discipline.

It often means you lack clarity.

Most people were never taught how to connect values to spending.

They were taught how to earn.
They were taught how to swipe.
They were taught how to survive.

They were rarely taught how to choose.

You Don’t Need a New Budget. You Need a New Conversation.

Not a spreadsheet conversation.

A values conversation.

A “what kind of life do I actually want to fund” conversation.

A “what am I willing to delay for something better” conversation.

A “what am I tired of pretending doesn’t matter” conversation.

Because once your values are clear, the numbers become easier.

Not easy.

But clearer.

A Gentle Challenge

Pull up your last 30 days of spending.

Don’t judge it.
Don’t explain it.
Don’t justify it.

Just observe it.

Then ask:

What does this say I care about?
What does this say I avoid?
What does this say I protect?
What does this say I prioritize?

You may discover that your money isn’t betraying you.

It’s just telling you where you’ve been living on autopilot.

And autopilot can be changed.

This Is Where Real Financial Peace Starts

Not with restriction.

Not with guilt.

Not with comparison.

But with awareness.

When you see your money clearly, you gain choice.

And choice is where peace begins.

Final Thought

Your bank account is not your enemy.

It is your most honest feedback partner.

It shows you where your life is currently funded.

And it quietly invites you to decide if that still fits who you are becoming.

Reflection Question:
If your bank account had to explain your priorities to someone who’s never met you, would you feel proud of the story it tells or want to rewrite it?

If you’re ready to rewrite it, start with one small, honest shift. One choice that supports the life you actually want to live. And let that be enough for today.

If you’d like help making your money match the life you actually want, I’d love to support you. You can schedule a conversation with me when you’re ready.

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The Fastest Way To Make Buying A Home A Reality

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A new year always brings that itch for something different.
A fresh start.
A new chapter.
A place that finally feels like yours.

If buying a home is on your heart this year, the best place to start isn’t Zillow, a drive through your favorite neighborhood, or a chat with a realtor.

The first step lives in one place:

Your credit report.

It’s not flashy.
It’s not exciting.
But it’s the foundation that decides whether your homebuying journey feels peaceful… or stressful.

Let’s walk through why credit is so important and how to get it ready before you step into the homebuying world.

Why Credit Comes First

Your credit score affects everything about your mortgage:

  • What loan programs you qualify for
  • Your interest rate
  • Your monthly payment
  • The amount you pay over the life of the loan
  • Your mortgage insurance
  • Your level of bargaining power

People hear that FHA will approve scores as low as 580 and think, “Great, I only need to hit the number.”
Not quite.

A lower score may get you approved,
but a higher score gives you a more affordable and comfortable mortgage.

You’re not just buying a house, you’re borrowing money to borrow money.
That’s the part your credit score controls.

In a high-rate market, this matters more than ever.

A higher score can lower your rate, reduce your payments, and open the door to cheaper, better loan options.

Start the Year With a Credit Deep Dive

If you’ve avoided looking at your credit report, you aren’t alone.
Most people only check it when something goes wrong.

But checking your credit is not about judgment, it’s about seeing the path forward.

Here’s where to begin:

1. Pull all three credit reports

Experian, Equifax, TransUnion.
Not the score your bank gives you — you need the full reports.

2. Go line by line

Look for:

  • Mistakes
  • Accounts that aren’t yours
  • Old items past the reporting period
  • Duplicate accounts
  • Late payments
  • High balances

You can’t fix what you can’t see.

3. Highlight the things hurting your score

Late payments and high utilization are the biggest score killers.
This is where many people get discouraged, but this is exactly where the opportunity sits.

4. Create a simple plan

Not a complicated spreadsheet.
Not a promise you can’t keep.
Just a realistic plan that helps you move forward one step at a time.

Here are practical steps that help most buyers to raise their score before house shopping:

Lower your credit card balances

Aim to get each card to a healthier range.
Even small changes here can move your score quickly.

Set every bill on automatic payments

Late payments are sneaky and damaging.
This stops that cycle.

Dispute errors

If something is wrong with your report, fix it now, not when you’re sitting in a lender’s office feeling stressed.

Add positive credit

A secured card or credit builder loan can add healthy activity if your credit is thin.

Stop applying for anything

No store cards.
No “pre-qualified” offers.
Protect your score while you’re preparing.

Why This Matters So Much in Today’s Market

Rates may shift throughout the year, but your credit score is one thing you can control.

When your score goes up:

  • Your loan options increase
  • Your rate can drop
  • Your payment becomes more comfortable
  • Your total cost of ownership goes down

This isn’t about chasing a perfect number. It’s about putting yourself in the best financial position possible before you commit to the biggest purchase of your life.

Give Yourself Time, Not Pressure

Many people wait until they want a house right now and then rush to fix years of credit habits in 30 days. That creates panic and disappointment.

Starting early makes the entire experience steady and manageable.

Think of it this way:

Fixing your credit isn’t just a step in the homebuying process; it’s part of becoming the future homeowner you want to be.

If You Want to Buy a Home This Year, Start Here

Before:

  • Shopping
  • Touring
  • Getting pre-approved
  • Choosing a lender
  • Talking interest rates

Start with your credit.

It’s the first step to a home you can afford, enjoy, and comfortably maintain.

If you want support with reviewing your credit, creating a simple plan, or preparing for a lender conversation, I can help you build a clear path to get ready for homeownership this year.

You’re not alone in this, and you’re not behind.
You’re just getting started on the right foot.

From Piggy Banks to Paychecks: Why Kids Need Money Lessons Early

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I still remember the first time my daughter asked me for money. She was maybe four years old, holding a crumpled dollar in her little hand like it was gold. She looked up at me with those big brown eyes and said, “Mommy, can I buy all the candy?”

That was my wake-up call.

Teaching kids about money is a lot like teaching them to ride a bike. You don’t just shove them on a two-wheeler, give a little push, and pray they figure it out before crashing into the mailbox. No, you start with training wheels. You run alongside them. You let them wobble, tip, and scrape a knee or two while you cheer them on.

Money works the same way.

Kids don’t come with a built-in money manual. They come with big dreams, sticky fingers, and an uncanny ability to find the toy aisle like it’s the Promised Land. But if we don’t start teaching them about money when they’re small, they’ll grow up learning about it the hard way, usually from the school of overdraft fees and credit card debt.

Money is one of those topics we sometimes whisper about, like it’s too big or too grown-up for kids to understand. But we need to remember, they’re watching us. They notice when we swipe a card at Target like it’s magic. They notice when we sigh at the kitchen table with the stack of bills. They notice when we drop a $20 in the offering plate on Sunday. They’re learning whether we say anything or not. Just like little seedlings, they soak it all in, even if they don’t have words for it yet.

And that’s why it matters to start early.

Give them chances to handle money. Instead of waiting until they’re teenagers and suddenly expect them to “get it,” why not start now? Give them little bits of responsibility early. A dollar to put in the offering plate. A piggy bank where they can watch their coins grow. Let them save for something they want instead of handing it to them right away. That’s watering the seed.

Now, I know what you’re thinking: “Yvonne, my kids can’t even keep their shoes on the right feet, and you want me to trust them with money?” Yep. Because learning about money when the stakes are small is exactly the point. Better they “waste” $5 on slime or Pokémon cards now than $500 on a credit card bill later.

God says in Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” That doesn’t just mean teaching them to say “please” and “thank you.” It means showing them how to live wisely including how to use money in a way that honors Him.

When we start early, those lessons take root.

And if they mess it up? Well, isn’t that the safest time for them to learn while the “budget crisis” is just about a lost dollar and not about not being able to pay rent?

So, start the conversation. Make it fun. Let them make a few mistakes while the stakes are low. Teach them about giving, saving, and spending in that order. You’ll be planting seeds that will grow into wisdom later and maybe, just maybe, you’ll save yourself from being the family ATM when they’re 25.

Because at the end of the day, money isn’t just about numbers. It’s about values, choices, and trusting God with what we’ve been given. And those are lessons worth teaching as soon as their little hands can hold a dollar bill.

You Can’t Take It With You, But You Will Leave a Trail

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Most of us don’t lie awake at night thinking about our “financial legacy.” We’re thinking about how to stretch this week’s paycheck, how to pay for braces or college or a leaky roof, and how to somehow enjoy life in the middle of all that. Legacy sounds like something for the rich. Like a trust fund with a nameplate.

But that’s a myth.
Your financial legacy isn’t about wealth. It’s about intention.

It’s not just what you leave behind, it’s how you live now.

And whether you’re the type to meal prep and coupon clip, or you’re on a first-name basis with DoorDash, you’re already building your legacy.

Let’s Back Up: What Is a Financial Legacy?

Your financial legacy is the impact your money habits, decisions, and values have on others, long after you’re gone. It’s not just a will or a life insurance policy (though please, go make one of those).
It’s the story your finances tell about your life. About what mattered. About what you prioritized. It’s the story your dollars tell about what mattered to you. Maybe it’s the house you built equity in and passed on. Maybe it’s the business you started from scratch that changed your family’s future. Maybe it’s that you taught your kids to tithe before they even understood how taxes work. Maybe it’s simply that you taught your kids how not to fear money.

Everyone leaves one.
The question is: Will yours be by design or by default?

Let me ask you this: when you think about your parents’ or grandparents’ relationship with money, what comes to mind? Was it survival mode? Scarcity? Generosity? Guilt? Hustle culture? Were there unspoken rules about debt, giving, or talking about money?

Those silent messages are part of a financial legacy. And if we’re not careful, we pass them on, whether we meant to or not.

So… What Do You Want It to Be?

Here’s where things get exciting, and, yes, a little convicting. You get to write this story. You get to choose what your money says about your life. And before you start spiraling into shame or overthinking your current bank balance, take a breath. Legacy isn’t about never making mistakes. It’s about being intentional.

Some of the most powerful legacies don’t come with dollar signs.

Legacy isn’t just for “someday.” It starts now.
In the daily decisions.
In the silent generosity.
In the way you manage what you’ve been given, whether that’s a little or a lot.

Start with questions like:

  • What money values do I want to pass down?
  • What do I want my kids (or community, or nieces and nephews) to learn by watching me?
  • How do I want to model both faithfulness and freedom?

Maybe your financial legacy is showing your daughter she doesn’t have to go broke to prove she’s successful. Maybe it’s modeling generosity in small, consistent ways. Maybe it’s paying off your debt so your kids don’t inherit your stress.

And yes, maybe it is setting up a trust, or teaching your children how to run the family business. But that all starts with a change of mindset.

If all of this feels like a lot, take it one step at a time. You don’t need to fix everything overnight. You don’t need a six-figure income to have a seven-generation impact. You just need to start living your values with your money, right now, right where you are.

Your legacy isn’t just something you leave. It’s something you live.
And every time you choose wisdom over worry, generosity over fear, stewardship over chaos, you’re building it.

So again I ask:
What do you want your financial legacy to be?
And better yet…
What are you doing about it today?

It’s Okay to Change the Plan

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There’s a moment in life when you look around and think: I’m not who I used to be.

Maybe it’s subtle like realizing you no longer enjoy the things you used to. Maybe it’s big like going through a divorce, getting married, having a baby, switching careers, or stepping into entrepreneurship. Whatever it is, something inside you has shifted.

You’ve grown.

You’ve evolved.

So why are you still using the same money plan from a version of you that no longer exists?

The Budget That Doesn’t Fit Anymore

A money plan isn’t just a spreadsheet. It’s a reflection of your values, your priorities, your goals, and your identity. And if you’ve changed, if your life has changed, then sticking to the same old budget is like wearing clothes that don’t fit anymore.

Sure, they technically cover you. But they don’t feel right.
They pinch. They restrict. They don’t give you room to breathe, stretch, or move forward.

So, if you’re feeling off financially, it’s not necessarily because you’re doing something wrong.

It might just be that you’ve outgrown the plan.

A plan made by a different version of you. A version who was in survival mode, or trying to please everyone, or following rules that never really fit in the first place.

You’ve healed. You’ve evolved. You’ve stepped into a new season.

And new seasons call for new plans.

You’re Not “Bad With Money”—You’re Outdated

This part is important, so read it twice:
If you’re struggling with your finances right now, it might not be because you’re bad with money.

It might be because your money plan is built for a person you no longer are.

A single mom going back to school has a completely different financial reality than she did when she was child-free and working full-time.
A new entrepreneur can’t rely on the same paycheck-to-paycheck plan they used when they had a 9-to-5.
And someone who’s healing from a toxic relationship might need space, and a spending plan, that prioritizes self-care and rebuilding trust in themselves.

Your money needs to meet you where you are now, not where you were two years ago, or where someone else thinks you should be.

The Spiritual Side of Shifting Your Finances

For those of us who walk with faith, change is not only allowed, it’s expected.

God does not create you to stay the same. He prunes. He redirects. He places you in new seasons, not to punish you, but to grow you.

So why would your finances be any different?

Too often, we treat our finances like a separate part of life, like God is invited into our relationships, our parenting, or our healing… but not our bank accounts.

But God cares about it all.

He sees your desire to be a good steward. He knows the pressure you carry. And He’s not asking for perfection. He’s asking for surrender.

Sometimes, the tension you feel in your finances isn’t a failure. It’s God whispering, This plan no longer fits the person I’m growing you into.

So what if instead of judging yourself… you paused and listened?

What if the struggle was just an invitation to co-create something new with Him right beside you?

Give Yourself Permission

Here’s what I want you to know: You have permission to change your mind. You have permission to rewrite the plan.

You’re allowed to create a money strategy that reflects the season you’re currently in, not the one you survived, or the one you’re trying to impress others with, or the one that “should” make sense on paper.

Let it reflect your values now. Let it support your mental health now. Let it guide your decisions in ways that align with the truth of who you are now.

Your Financial GPS

Think of your money plan like a GPS. When you take a detour, whether by choice or by circumstance, the map doesn’t yell at you or freeze in judgment.

It simply says:
“Recalculating.”

And it gives you a new route.

So if you’ve changed… maybe it’s time your budget says, “Recalculating,” too.
Not because you failed. But because you’re headed somewhere new.
And you deserve a financial plan that can grow with you. One that’s rooted in grace, grounded in reality, and fueled by hope.

Need help with that recalculating moment?
That’s what I’m here for. Let’s make sure your money plan reflects this version of you, the one who’s still learning, still growing, and still worthy of wealth and peace.

The Startup Fantasy They Don’t Show on Social Media

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Starting a business sounds so glamorous. You see the Instagram reels: laptops on the beach, perfect coffee mugs on pristine desks, captions like “be your own boss.” And sure, that part exists. Kind of. But behind those polished posts is a lot of sweat, late nights, and more than a few moments of quietly panicking while whispering “What have I done?” into a lukewarm slice of pizza.

The financial side? Well, let’s just say it’s not the part people rush to post about.

When you first get the itch to start your own thing, money feels like both the fuel and the fire. You need it to get going, but you’re also terrified of watching it burn too fast. It starts with those “just a few startup costs.” A website here, some software there, maybe a logo that you swear you can design yourself but end up spending hours searching UpWork and Fiverr to pay someone to do it for you. Before you know it, your credit card balance looks like a phone number and you’re muttering, “Well, that escalated quickly.”

Then comes the rollercoaster of income. One month you feel like a rock star. The next you’re googling “how to sell a kidney legally.” Welcome to entrepreneurship.

Here’s the thing most people don’t tell you upfront: the biggest danger isn’t the spending or even the slow months. It’s not having a plan. A lot of people walk into entrepreneurship with nothing but a great idea and a hope that “it’ll all work out.” Hope is lovely. But hope doesn’t pay vendors, taxes, or that health insurance bill that somehow doubled when you left your 9-to-5.

This is where having a financial coach comes in. And no, I’m not just saying that because it’s my job (okay, maybe a little). But seriously, someone needs to be your financial reality check while you’re dreaming big. You need someone who’ll ask, “Do you actually need that $900 course on how to grow your Instagram following?” Or, “Have you set aside money for taxes or are we going to cry together in April?”

A financial coach helps you build a plan that fits your actual life. Not someone else’s glossy highlight reel. We talk about things like setting up a business emergency fund (because stuff will go sideways), separating personal and business accounts (so you don’t accidentally use your grocery money to buy a new laptop), and figuring out how to pay yourself consistently—even when business feels like a rollercoaster strapped to another rollercoaster.

Starting a business is one of the most exciting and terrifying things you can do. You’ll have days where you wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. You’ll have days where you Google job openings at Target because at least they offer benefits. But with a solid financial foundation, you can ride the ups and downs without constantly living in panic mode.

Money doesn’t have to be the thing that breaks your business. Done right, it can be what gives you freedom. The freedom to grow, to experiment, to fail and pivot, to take time off, to eventually sit on that beach (without bringing your laptop). And if you need someone in your corner helping you figure it out—well, you know where to find me. I’ll bring the spreadsheets. You bring the big dreams.

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Mid-Year Money Check-Up: Are You Where You Wanted to Be in 2025?

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Let’s start with the obvious: somehow, it’s already summer.

Wasn’t it just January? One minute we’re toasting to “New Year, New Me,” and the next we’re knee-deep in sunscreen, graduation invites, and last minute plans.

But before we get swept into vacation season and BBQ weekends, now’s a good time to ask: how are things going with your money?

No guilt. No panic. Just a good, honest check-in.

It’s about noticing where you are, what’s working, what isn’t and making small tweeks so you don’t roll into December with a shrug and a credit card bill you forgot about in July.

Here’s a simple way to reflect, adjust, and refocus without feeling overwhelmed or needing a spreadsheet-induced nap.

1. Look Back Before You Look Ahead
Pull out the financial goals you set in January if you can find them. If you didn’t write them down, no worries. Think back: what did you hope would happen with your money this year? Pay off a credit card? Build an emergency fund? Finally stop fighting with your budget?

Now ask yourself: are you closer to those goals than you were six months ago? Even a little bit? Great. If not, don’t spiral. You’re not behind you’re just getting data. Life throws curveballs. Budgets break. Priorities shift. That’s not failure. That’s being human.

2. Check the Numbers (Without Letting Them Boss You Around)
This is your quick glance at reality. Look at your spending. Check your savings. Peek at that debt. Are the numbers moving the way you want them to?

You don’t need to create a brand-new budget from scratch unless yours is a total dumpster fire, in which case, maybe give it a little refresh. But this is more about noticing trends. Are you spending way more on takeout than you realized? Is your savings account still sitting at $73.20?

Awareness is power, and it’s a lot less painful than pretending it’s all fine while your money quietly tiptoes out the back door.

3. Rework the Plan (Yes, You’re Allowed to Change It)
Maybe you’ve had some wins. Maybe you’ve had some setbacks. Either way, it’s okay to change the plan. In fact, it’s smart.

If a goal no longer makes sense, change it. If something felt realistic in January but now feels laughable, adjust it. Let this mid-year moment be about setting yourself up for success not holding yourself hostage to a plan that no longer works.

Refocus on what matters most now. Maybe you’re ready to go all in on paying down debt. Or maybe what you really need is a little breathing room in your budget so you can stop feeling tense every time your phone dings with a bank alert.

4. Choose One Thing to Stick With
This part’s important. Pick one small habit to carry into the rest of the year. Just one. Something doable. Something that keeps you connected to your money. Maybe it’s tracking your spending once a week. Maybe it’s putting $50 into savings every time you get paid. Maybe it’s finally canceling that gym membership you’re not using (we both know it’s time).

Financial success isn’t about doing everything perfectly. It’s about doing one thing consistently. Then another. And another.

Let’s Wrap This Up
Mid-year is not a reason to panic. It’s an invitation to pivot. Whether you’re on track, off track, or have no idea where the track even is, this is your moment to stop, check the map, and decide where you want to go next.

You don’t have to overhaul your entire financial life in one weekend. You just have to pay attention. Reflect. Adjust. Keep going.

And if you need a little help on your journey? That’s where I come in. No judgment. Just direction. Think of me like your financial GPS – recalculating when needed, but always helping you get back on the road.

Quick Fixes Won’t Fix You

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It’s easy to get drawn in by the idea that one simple trick can turn your finances around. Maybe it’s a new budgeting app, a viral savings challenge, or the perfectly timed ad for a loan consolidation or low-interest credit card. It feels like if you just find the right fix, everything will click into place. But the idea that one quick move can solve years of habits, patterns, and beliefs about money is misleading.

There’s a seductive quality to shortcuts. When you’re financially stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed, your brain craves relief. It offers a moment of calm in the chaos, even if it’s temporary. But financial transformation is never just about the numbers It’s about who you’re becoming through the process. And real transformation isn’t fast. It’s often uncomfortable. It’s deeply personal.

Quick fixes are surface-level solutions. They focus on what you do like cutting expenses, downloading a tool, following a plan, without addressing why you spend the way you do or what you’re trying to feel when you swipe your card. You can set up automatic transfers to savings, but if you still feel like you never have enough, that money might not stay there for long. You can follow a budget, but if it feels restrictive or disconnected from your real life, you’ll eventually abandon it.

Then life happens. A tire blows. A friend invites you on a spontaneous weekend trip. Your old habits sneak back in, disguised as self-care or “you only live once” indulgences. The app gathers digital dust. The quick fix fades, and you’re back where you started, sometimes even more discouraged than before.

Why? Because quick fixes address symptoms, not core issues. They aim to change behaviors without addressing the beliefs that drive them. You can automate savings, but if you still believe you’re “bad with money,” that savings account will stay empty. You can follow a debt payoff plan, but if you haven’t built the discipline to say no to impulsive spending, the cycle will repeat. There is no app or spreadsheet that can replace the inner work of developing financial resilience.

This kind of change isn’t as exciting as a new app or a bold financial goal. Real change looks less like a sudden leap and more like a slow, intentional climb. It’s committing to tracking your spending even when it’s boring. It’s revisiting your goals regularly, not just when you’re inspired. It’s learning how to sit with discomfort instead of numbing it with a shopping spree. It’s asking yourself hard questions: What do I believe about money? Who taught me that? Does it serve me? What am I avoiding by chasing the next quick fix?

If you’re stuck in a cycle of hoping the next idea will be the one, take a step back. Ask yourself what you’re avoiding. Are you looking for a fix, or are you ready for real change? You don’t need a miracle. You need a plan that fits your life, habits that support your values, and the patience to let progress build.

Quick fixes might feel good in the moment. But they won’t build the kind of financial life you actually want. Real change is slower, steadier—and far more rewarding.

So the next time you’re tempted by a financial fix that promises overnight success, pause. Ask yourself if it’s addressing your foundation or just patching a crack. You’re not broken. You’re just evolving. And evolution takes time, intention, and a willingness to go deeper than the surface. Quick fixes won’t fix you. But showing up for yourself every day, even in small, imperfect ways just might.