How busy are you? We have gotten so used to being busy in today’s world that we often don’t recognize how thinly we are spread until we break.

This cultural trend often values constant activity and a packed schedule, equating busyness with productivity and importance.

I’m part of an accountability group that meets once a week. One member had to take the meeting in their car this week as they were busy getting things done. We started talking about how we’ve gone to audiobooks to listen to while we workout (self-care?) or how there are times we listen to coursework or meeting notes while showering, just to fit it in.

That’s what most of us have come to. Just trying to fit it all in, in the expectation of having it all.

Societal expectations and cultural norms can play a significant role in promoting the idea that being busy is a sign of hard work, dedication, and success.

Society tends to validate and reward individuals who appear busy. The idea that someone is in demand and has a packed schedule can contribute to a positive social image, leading to admiration and validation from others. How many times have you heard the phrase, “if you want something done, give it to a busy person.”

Some workplaces encourage a culture of overworking, where employees feel pressured to put in long hours to demonstrate commitment and dedication to their jobs. There is often pressure to achieve success, and busyness is seen as a means to that end. People may believe that staying constantly busy will help them climb the ladder of success or achieve their goals faster. But at what cost?

Advancements in technology have made it easier for people to be constantly connected and accessible. This constant connectivity can create an expectation for individuals to be responsive and engaged at all times. For some individuals, busyness provides a sense of validation and self-worth. Being constantly busy may be linked to one’s identity and contribute to a feeling of importance or significance.

And then there is FOMO. The fear of missing out on opportunities or experiences can drive people to stay busy. The belief that every moment needs to be filled with activities can be rooted in a fear that not being busy might result in missed opportunities or social exclusion. This fear can be fueled by social media, where people often share highlights of their busy lives.

When was the last time you picked up a book to read for pleasure or saw a movie with your phone actually turned off? When was the last time you were excited about life and what you’re doing with it and not just pushing through to get it done and on to the next thing? Maybe it’s time to be more interested in what’s important to you.

It’s essential to recognize that constant busyness does not necessarily equate to effectiveness or happiness. It’s crucial to find a balance and prioritize activities that truly align with your values and well-being. It’s important to note that while busyness can be a part of a fulfilling and successful life, it’s equally important to prioritize well-being, balance, and self-care. Constant busyness can lead to burnout and negatively impact mental and physical health. It’s essential to question the cultural narrative that values busyness and find a balance that promotes both productivity and overall well-being.