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Author: Yvonne Clark (page 2 of 7)

Who Wins?

I’ve been really struggling with what to write this week. It’s been a strange one to be sure.

With recent events in our country (USA) there seems to be more contention than ever. So many opinions divide us, and anger is seething even between friends. I thought about writing about that but what’s the point. I’m not here to try and change anyone’s mind. I am here to do my best to uplift and unite.

We talk about making new laws and limiting things that people hold strongly to but the fact is we can’t legislate wickedness away. So many people want the government or someone bigger than they are to implement change but the truth is, charity (love) begins at home, on your block, in your neighborhood. And no, I don’t sit around singing Kumbaya and thinking that sharing a Coke will change anything. But, I DO know that love can change things. It may not change anyone else but it will change you.

I’ve heard it said before and I believe now more than ever…”everyone wants a right but nobody wants a responsibility”. I know as you read that that most everyone is thinking about the other side and how the other side is so steadfast and uncompromising but turn that around and be honest with yourself. How compromising are you? How willing are you to give up your ideals and work together to make things better… in any situation? It doesn’t have to be all or nothing, one side or the other. Why can’t both sides and a gathering of many ideas together be better? Why do you (or I) have to be totally right? Where does YOUR (and MY) responsibility lie?

Think about this, not only on the grand scale of the division of our country but narrow it down to even your own one on one daily relationships…. do you want to BE right, or DO right? Something to think about…

Tear It Down And Rebuild

Hello friends! I hope you have found some good in your day so far.

I know normally I post things that tend to be uplifting and try to stay encouraging. And that generally is my focus. But the truth is that although we should do our best to find that silver lining, sometimes you just have to feel it. Feel the frustration. Feel the anger, the hurt the disappointment, the negative. It’s ok to feel scared or hurt. We don’t like it, but it’s what makes us human.

Life is rough and sometimes we just have to get through those times to be able to find or do better. It’s never a good idea to just sweep the pain under the rug and put on a happy face. Yes, there are times when we have to do that in the moment but it’s not something we should try and do long term. The real feelings will come out and the longer we try to squash them, often times the stronger they become. Like a pressure cooker.

We need to let the negative cause us to strive harder to make the changes that we need to make in order to live our best life.

Allow it to polish and create a more refined you. Learn to enjoy the contrast and let the bad times help you to savor the good times and always know there is better on the other side.

Let it strengthen you and help you grow into the person you should be. After all, emotional strength is built much like physical strength…it’ll never happen without a little struggle and some pain.

Take a step forward with courage as you grow to use that strength and experience to help others.

Spread kindness and help others do better. We only have this one small, short life. We’re in it together so let’s make it better and take care of one another.

All This Time

What’s good today friends? I apologize for my long delay in posting again. Once more it was some very unexpected circumstances that lead to my lack of posting.

My mother has been very sick so I have been traveling back and forth between states. This last time was the most vital travels of my life. You see my mom almost didn’t make it.

She has been suffering from heart issues for a while. And before her most recent surgery, my sister and I sat in her hospital room helping her plan her funeral. Friends, I can not even explain to you what that is like. To sit with the woman who gave you life, whose heartbeat you have known since you were conceived, who has loved you and seen you through your life, to watch her calmly pick out the songs she wants to be sung at her memorial and who she wants as honorary pallbearers.

It changes you.

I left my dog, my home, my friends and my job for weeks at a time. And time stood still.  I’m just now starting to adjust to “normal” life again.

I know I preach about being kind and taking care of one another but I can’t emphasize this enough. But this time I need to add to make sure to take care of yourself. I mean physically and I mean emotionally. Time is so precious so why waste it? Eat healthily but enjoy that cupcake! Don’t put up with people who drag you down or make you feel bad. Stop giving your all to a job that won’t remember your name if you left tomorrow.

Live your best life….. You only get one.

Regrouping

Hello friends and happy New Year!

I apologize for the extended delay…I’ve missed you all so much!

What started out as something a little minor ended up growing into several more serious things that kept me from writing.  Some days it was physical pain that kept me away. Other days it was emotional…not so much pain as just emptiness.

I always tried to keep Nordy’s Garage uplifting but at the end of 2017 I was having a tough time and I didn’t want to carry that over to you all. Then I realized that part of the reason I started this blog was to be open and honest and let others know that when they were going through something they weren’t alone.

My absence started with traveling. I went to visit my daughter before she moved further away and got very busy in her new life, then shortly thereafter I went to visit my mom who has been sick.

Then I got injured. That injury (in my back) caused me to have trouble sitting for long periods…who am I kidding…. sitting at all. I struggled through work (I have a desk job) and by the time I got home the last thing I wanted to do, or even could do was sit and write.

I was going to the doctor for treatment up to 3 times a week. My injury started to heal where I could sit for longer periods of time and I took a trip for my birthday. Then my mom got sicker…. came very close to losing her life so I traveled to see her once again.

Other things happened in between all of that and it caused me to slip into a quiet place by myself. Some people that I was incredibly close to grew distant and I found myself more alone. And I didn’t want to write. I couldn’t write. I didn’t know what to say.

Recently there was another tragedy that I faced. My longest known and best friend lost her son. I found myself so empty that I couldn’t even pray anymore. It’s not that I lost my faith but more like I had nothing left to say. I just existed. So, I asked a friend to pray for me. The morning I asked for prayers I physically felt them. God was keeping me going. No matter what, He’s always faithful.

So now it’s been a few days and I’m still struggling. I won’t lie about that. I’m struggling with several things actually. But today I was able to mutter a small prayer.

I’m still hurting, a little physically, more emotionally but I know I’ll get through even though most of the time I just want to cry and break things. But I recognize that as the grieving that I’m going through for the loss of several things.  I’m letting it happen though and embracing it so I can heal.

I guess that’s my message…. life; feel it because you can’t stop it from happening. Just don’t lose yourself or your faith in it.

As always, and maybe especially now, be kind to one another. Say I love you. Hug. Live.

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Digging Deeper

What are you grateful for? I know you’ve been asked that many times. I’ve asked you many times.

As I asked myself this question I realized just how fluid that question is. Our answers will change as our circumstances change.

But when we’re asked that question, most of us go to our standard list of how we’re so thankful for our friends and families. Our pets. The clothes we have. The food we eat. The home we live in.

Oh God is so good, isn’t He?

But how often are we grateful for and thank God for the not so good stuff?

When was the last time you felt thankful for the job you hate? You know, that one that allows you to have the home and food?

Or how about the person you can’t seem to get along with? The one who can make you appreciate the good people in your life a little bit more?

It’s all a matter of perspective. We need to be grateful for everything in our lives…the good and the bad.

And when things are not going well try to see how it’s doing you good. At the very least let it make you stronger. Maybe you need to have the hard time to prepare you for your next step.

You can’t grow if everything is easy. Kind of like that old saying, “No pain, no gain”.

I’m always talking about looking for the silver lining. Maybe it’s time to try seeing them in even the darkest of clouds because they are there. You just might have to look a little harder.

As always, be kind and love one another friends. Be the good in this world.

The Greatest Gift

I read something a while back that gave me pause. It said that even though Adam had perfect communion with God and he lived in a perfect, sinless place, God said it wasn’t good for Adam to be alone.

Being divorced I’ve never thought too much about being alone. It’s just what I was. Alone. It’s something I’d grown accustomed to.

I’ve been called Lil Miss Independent by some…as if I had a choice to be anything else. I was married to a military man for many years and a single mom for almost a decade after that. Not taking care of everything was never an option for me.

And I know I’m not alone in this. I have several friends who are living a similar life and it can be tiring and you often feel alone and defeated.

A common thought from my friends, since most of us are single and have been for some time… They ask why open yourself to love again? Is it worth it?

It doesn’t even have to be romantic love. Many of us keep a distance even with friends because we are afraid of losing them. We do anything to avoid the pain of loss. And most of the time it isn’t even something we think about. It’s just what has become our natural reaction to life.

But how do you know what joy is if you’ve never known sorrow? Can you truly appreciate the sunshine if you’ve never seen the rain?

Me? I choose to live by the idea of the great Maya Angelou…and I quote “Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”

After all, what is life without love?

Beautiful You

What makes your favorite song one that you go back to listen to time and time again?

What makes the world’s most valuable art so beautiful?

It’s because they are different. Your favorite song doesn’t sound like all the other music out there. The most fascinating works of art are beautiful because they’re unique.

So why do we spend so much time and energy trying to look and act like everyone else?

Why are we so afraid to be ourselves?

Is it because we’re worried someone won’t like us? Do you realize that even if you work hard enough and end up like everyone else there’s going to be those out there that don’t like that version of you?

There is nothing wrong with the original you. As a matter of fact, you are wonderfully made.

How much more effort is it to live a façade?

Would you want someone to care about you based on a lie?

Everyone has idiosyncrasies. Why do yours have to be bad? Don’t you appreciate the things in your friends that make them different from people that are not your friends?

Why can’t we appreciate the things about us that make us special and unique?

I’ve gotten to the point in my life that if someone were to call be normal I’d be offended!

We need to learn that you may not look or act like everyone else but that’s what makes you special and unique. Embrace that, emphasize that!! Turn what YOU think is a flaw into an asset and watch how the world responds.

How can you expect others to like you when you don’t even like yourself?

I always talk about being kind to one another but it only works when you are first kind to yourself. Treat yourself like you would your best friend. After all, you’re the one you’ll live with your entire life.

Boxed Up Faith

When I get worried or stressed I have to remind myself who is in charge.

And as a Christian, I know a better way. I need to let God be in control. He shouldn’t be my co-pilot. He should be at the wheel.

Do I honestly trust the one who created me? The one who has set the beat of my very own heart?

When I pray do I whisper my longings and pains in faith? Or are my words spoken in vain?

Do we…do I, trust God to do what he’s promised? Is my faith merely lip service?

When God has shown me what I’ve asked for, why do I question it? Why do I wait for yet another “sign”? By doing that I’m are putting God in a box and telling Him to do things MY way.

Aren’t I to live by faith and not by sight?

I know why I/we question…it’s because of past damage and hurts. It’s because of all the other let downs I’ve experienced in life. It’s what I’ve come to expect. Yet in doing that I am making God equal to man and my faith is misplaced.

God will make our path clear when we ask. But the problems come when we refuse to see. When we are afraid to trust Him. Oh frail human that I am…

I guess I’m just kind of ruminating this morning. When I have a lot time on my hands, this is what I do.

Have a great week, friends! And as always, be kind to one another.

 

Back To Life

Hello July! What a month you are. Historically a very good month for me. I’ve taken trips back home to Seattle in July. It was July when I embraced a whole new mindset and lifestyle that I still practice to this day. I met some of what have become my most favorite VIPs in my life in July…just to name a few things.

I guess you could say it seems to be a time that God smiles on me. And I have no doubt this time around will be any different.

That doesn’t mean that July (or any other day or month of my life) hasn’t dealt me hardship. But over time I have learned to allow those times to make me stronger and to appreciate the good times even more.

I’m a firm believer that you can’t truly appreciate the sunshine without a little rain.

I’ve been sidelined for a while with an injury that hasn’t allowed me to be my normal self. And it’s been tough. The physical pain was bad enough but what it did to my spirit was worse. So, with today being the first day of July it was the perfect day to re-start a lot of things…my running, improving my eating habits, renewing my spirit and mindset as well.

Today on my run I spent a lot of time in prayer. It felt so good to be back out there, communing with The Creator. I felt peace again for the first time in a long time. Now the struggle will be to keep that peace!

I hope when you have a time that your life feels in chaos, or worse, empty, that you can get back to a space that reawakens you. Sometimes we have to look a little harder to find it but the work you put into finding it is worth it!

I got so tired of ALLOWING, yes ALLOWING other people and situations to steal my joy.

I feel thankful that the calendar reminded me today to seek out the joy I’ve known. So come on July…let’s do it again! Let’s make some great memories!

As always, friends…be kind, show love, be grateful and take no-one for granted. Tomorrow is never promised.

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